Inner game, what does it mean to you?

elheretic · 2013-11-04T03:24:18+00:00

It is easy for me because I usually believe I am better than most people.

I don't say this to e-brag but maybe I really am fucked up psychologically.

I've overcome a lot of shit in my life and instead of making me humble it made me arrogant as fuck.

So I worked on my inner game by making it to 21 and not being dead or in prison I guess.

aspectt · 2013-11-04T16:28:47+00:00

As a recovering 'Nice Guy' who still has a ways to go, some of the more helpful things for me involve solitude. It probably helps that i'm an introvert here, so consider that but here are some things.

Get a journal or skeetch book and HAND-WRITE stuff in a journal in pen. Don't type; writing by hand really forces you to solidify the idea in your mind before committing it to paper.
Take a day on a weekend to focus entirely on you. Wake up, go for a run or exercise, then take a long bath and get real relaxed. Avoid TV, Computers, Phones, media in general. Take your journal/sketchbook into the woods somewhere and write down why you are awesome, and what you are good at. What you are naturally good at, what your strengths are, and the things you've accomplished that you're proud of - don't hold back
Then write down your weaknesses. Be honest, and nonjudgemental, this should be a totally objective critique about yourself.
Look over both lists, and think about how you can use your strengths to overcome your weaknesses. Write this stuff down.
I went to a cabin on the side of a mountain in the middle of nowhere without electricity and running water for a week, alone. The solitude forced me to think a lot about myself and where i was going in life. Also, being forced to take care of the most basic of human needs, like potable water, food, and shelter/fire tend to reinforce your sense of sovereignty.
Meditation. There are many types, experiment until you find one that works for you.

Its hard after being approval-seeking for much of my life to change over into a mode of 'not giving a fuck' about what other people think of you. Frequently I found myself being ashamed at things that gave me great pleasure - like videogames, table-top games, sci-fi media. One day I decided that instead of hiding it from people, I'd shove it in their face. So when I was out with some friends and we were talking to some women who were clearly not really that interested in me (hence I had nothing to lose) I steered the conversation into sci-fi books/movies, and just threw out my passion for it all. By chance, one of the women happened to also have a secret passion for sci-fi, and we got into a big conversation about wether Asimov or Clarke had a bigger impact on sci-fi movies. Though it went nowhere ultimately, it made me realize that people only shame you for you, if you shame yourself first. So I've begun to make a habit out of taking the things that I find I want to hide from people, and instead showing it to them.

When I do this, sure, I get some people who judge me for liking Magic the Gathering, but for the most part my passion for these things come through and people - especially women - can feel that passion and its interesting to them. After I mentioned magic the gathering at a party, when one woman asked "isn't that the game that the total nerd losers played in highschool?" instead of just sort of tucking my tail between my legs and ejecting as I would have in the past, I said with high "Oh yeah, totally nerdy, and you know what? its fun as fuck!"

... which launched into a conversation about why it was fun and pretty soon she was adjusting her hair and giving me a lot of IOIs. For such things as i've mentioned like videogames and whatnot, showing people what I was ashamed of (but passionate about) has converted them into points of pride.

raloa · 2013-11-04T04:10:55+00:00

I actually think it makes a whole lot of sense to just assume that everyone that talks to you wants to fuck and deluding yourself into thinking you're the greatest person that's ever existed.

Also reframe all your memories and thoughts in a way that boost your ego.

Afterall the truth doesn't really matter. That's why hamster is so powerful.

[deleted] · 2013-11-04T16:50:31+00:00

Inner game.

Picture two guys, one says everything perfect. I mean he's got outer game all figured up. When she says this I go that etc. BUT he feels like shit all the time. He is not worthy in his mind.

Now picture the other guy: He stutters, and has squeaky high pitch voice. BUT he feels like a King, genuine king. He feels his stutter is cute.

For me, it's all about inner game, or, WHAT FEELING do you bring into the communication. Women are insanely reactive, they will drink up your vision of yourself like a Bedouin drinks water (in my blue pill days when I noticed this, I was so disappointing at how stupid they are).

But that's reality. You can be a fuckin' beggar, but if you feel like a King, you will not beg for long.

Archwinger · 2013-11-04T18:34:53+00:00

Inner game is really the only game. I think we do it a real disservice by even calling it "game," because it's not a pick-up methodology. It's a way of life. Inner game is shorthand for "being a human being worthy of existing."

The problem is, most men today are broken. Their entire lives, from early childhood, have been spent seeking validation, and feeling valuable solely based on the perceptions of others. Not just women, but their parents, their teachers, their male friends -- their whole lives have been about doing the right things to win approval, be popular, be cool, be (what other people term as) successful. Their whole lives have been wasted doing what they're "supposed" to do.

It doesn't matter how much you work out, how much money you make, what your career is, or how many women you fuck -- if you're doing ANY of this for the approval of others, because any portion of your self-worth hinges on what any other person might think of you, you're a loser.

What other people think about you is only relevant to the extent that you need to cultivate this quality to get other things you want. The good will of others is just another commodity you accumulate and spend. It's not the goal.

"Inner game" for lack of a better set of words to describe this, is all about casting that aside, which begins with knowing what you really want out of life, and making a real and definite plan to get there, and taking real steps toward that plan, however small, every day, every hour, every minute. When you're on a path going somewhere, other people see that and are drawn to it. When you're just "improving" for the sake of improving, you're dancing for the crowd.

Blitz13 · 2013-11-04T18:27:48+00:00

Lifting weight is mentioned here a lot for improving your physical appearance but it's also great in improving confidence and happiness by releasing endorphins.

I'd also recommend dressing better. You know how you feel like a million dollars wearing a tux at a friends wedding? Try and capture that feeling, and it doesn't require a 3 piece suit everyday. Just find clothes that make you "walk taller".

Title	Inner game, what does it mean to you?
Author	thewrightstuff88
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Date	November 4, 2013 3:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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