How often is it ok? I think doing it too much comes with the risk of not looking like a leader (unattractive to women), looking beta orbiter, and at risk of setting a pattern where she thinks she can ask for anything she wants and expect it with no consideration for what I want. At risk of coming off as ultra compliant.

In the example I use, let's say you ask a girl to the park and you plan to barbecue for her or you cook for her at your house. Do you just take ownership and cook what you plan to cook? Or do you ask her for her preferences?

I know consideration, etc., is a good thing. But I get concerned of setting the precedent with her of the things I mentioned above if I ask for her preferences TOO much.