How do you get rid of the feelings of anger and wanting justice when people wrong you and show no shame?

ReleaseWorldly1473 · 2021-04-26T17:39:01+00:00

you need to get through yourself that the world isn't fair, Sometimes people will wrong you badly and get away with it with little to no consequences, hell they might even be seen as the good guys. Sometimes you just gotta take it and learn from the mistakes you made and not let people take you for granted and step all over you. Invest your time somewhere else, meet new people, work on your social skills, etc. Don't stay in the hope that you'll get justice, you may, you may not, move on. The world doesn't owe you anything, not even justice. Men get convicted for false rape allegations and spend years in jail, only to be compensated with a little money for all those years they spent in the jail, is that justice? Nope, but they cannot do anything but spend the remainder of their years well.

massgaincentral · 2021-04-26T17:39:35+00:00

There’s injustices everywhere. Teens just beat a 13 year old to death bullying him everyday for years and got off with community service. Probably because they were ghetto kids from a shit area. So wokeness.

There’s nothing you can do.

SolidSnake005 · 2021-04-26T19:02:10+00:00

If they're narcissistic (which it sounds like to me), the only way you can beat a narcissist is to run, block them out of your life. Otherwise you will be a source for them and they will use you like a Kleenex and throw you away if they don't have any use for you anymore. The only other ways to stop a narcissist is if they get caught by the police or they're stopped how every living creature is stopped permanently. I would opt for getting away from them.

Cases with narcissists never ends good, especially if they have other mental disorders like bipolarism, sociopathy or psychopathy. You have to figure out why they lovebomb you, they usually do it for a reason, not because they're genuinely interested in you or your well being. Don't let them know that you're empathetic, they will hone in on you like a compass or sharks when there's blood in the water. Don't let them know you're hurt by them, they have no empathy. They don't have feelings like normal people, they get off on hurting people because it's the way that they can only feel. They'll have multiple sex partners, even if they're married fir a long time. They do this to also feel alive, due to their chemical imbalance in their body. There is a whole forum on Quora about narcissism. I read that every now and then and see if there is anybody in my life currently where there are similar bad traits, stories or events that match up. I try to figure out who fits the bill in my theories and try to make and see patterns of them. Until they are proven, it's normal to be a little suspicious, you have to have solid evidence or proof to confirm your theory though. DO NOT, under the pain of death, expose these narcissists, unless you're ready to be harassed mentally, verbally and eventually physically. They also tend to be very vindictive. They'll turn the tables on a situation that they created or caused into themselves being the victim and you are the predator! Even though you are the victim and they're the predator! As soon as this happens, you have to walk away and cut them out of your life.

Also from a religous view, it would be what I just described plus a combination of demons or spirits. For women, it tends to be the Jezebel spirit that wanted John the Baptist's head. It does say in the bible that the woman always seeks the headship of the man. I'm not trying to be a religous zealot or anything, however I believe these are solid examples that start making sense or click for a lot of people. Whatever faith you have or don't, there are a lot of tried and true lessons to be learned in scripture.

As for getting rid of those feelings of anger and wanting justice? I don't really have the best answer for it as I myself struggle with either going too dark or being too nice. I don't really see there's a middle ground. ( I know there is though, and my mindset defaults to two options!) You do have to acknowledge them and deal with them in a healthy manner. I've wondered myself about dealing with chicks that rejected me, dumped, etc. as they feel it's their right to shame you for whatever thought or feeling at the time that justifies it. Do I call them out on their BS and not let them get away with it or is that petty of me, and I should ignore them and walk away? I heard a quote that really made me think on for a good while: "Don't let someone's opinion of you define who you are!"

MarkMy_Word · 2021-04-26T17:58:24+00:00

I’ve been bullied since kindergarten and at 25, I can tell you that you learn stoicism and not to take what other say seriously if its not about helping improve your life or your situation.

I kinda feel the same way you do; I’m getting myself in shape and realizing I was a little fat bitch but in high school I stood up for myself in some occasions when I was being bullied/fighting other classmates or the seniors/juniors.

Kevin Samuels said it best “The world doesn’t owe you sympathy” & its true. Don’t wait or expect them to apologize. Accept what happened and vow not to become those type of people. You have better things to focus on in life than bring justice or vengeance against bullies of society, that’s Batman’s job. You don’t owe them closure, nor do they owe you any closure. Let life be their consequences. Some of my bullies are in worse situations than me: locked up, (single) fathers, or dead because of gang violence, etc.

Again, you have other things to worry about. Ignore them if they choose to reach out, even if its for an apology. Better yourself physically and mentally, when you become at peace with your past, it might sting/cringe thinking about it, but acknowledging, analyzing and correcting our mistakes is what makes better people. Sorry if this is long

User36474746 · 2021-04-26T20:44:47+00:00

There are some serious rats in this world. I knew this one kid from Peru who was the best liar I've ever seen. The reason was because he came from that shit-hole and his family had to lie just to get into America. Anyways, he stole momey from me and act like he's my friend. Fuck it. I made way more money off the stock market and I gladly did it without his ass. While I do want to crack his skull in with a baseball bat, I know that I'll go to jail all for some scumbag? No. I go to the gym, I box, I go to school, I make money, I move on. My justice is being a better person than he is, I make more money than him, I am in better shape, I make sure I'm better off without him. Same goes for other people. Some guys I used to go to the gym with would only go with me because they needed me to drive them. I cut their asses off too!

Do yourself a favour and watch some TV or go for a walk if you feel angry thinking about that stuff. It won't do us any favours. Maybe one day they will feel bad or regret their decisions, but we shouldn't care.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-04-26T23:41:31+00:00

First of all, ditch the narcissists. Full on ghost them and never look back. Next, find a few friends. They will give you positive feedback to counter any irrational things someone says to you. My son has autism and has been horribly bullied all his life. He was torn to shreds. I got him into a good therapist and built his self-esteem back up. You got this buddy, I believe in you.

I have a lot of reasons to be angry. My own mother sold me down the river, many times. There's nothing I can do about it other than get revenge by having an awesome life anyway.

Title	How do you get rid of the feelings of anger and wanting justice when people wrong you and show no shame?
Author	ParadiseCity22
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Date	April 26, 2021 5:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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