Why do girls keep ghosting?

StraightGlueWater · 2016-11-20T05:22:42+00:00

Because the vast majority of girls are flakey ass fucks. They'll bail on a night out with a guy they don't know and call in an ex that they don't need to put effort into.

Going out requires effort, and proving herself (provided that's how you control the frame). Much easier to call in an old flame you know you like than risk it with a stranger.

This is why you need to be several rungs above her in the social ladder to guarantee you won't get flaked. Otherwise if you just ask out lots of girls, you will find yourself getting flaked on consistently. There isn't much more to it, and not much you can do about it.

The best advice I can give you if you're trying to get laid: close on the first night. Getting a girls number at the bar nearly never pans out. Getting a girl to come home with you from the bar almost always ends the right way.

So put that fucking coffee down. Coffee is for closers.

StillRedder · 2016-11-20T03:50:28+00:00

How are you meeting these girls? When you met them, did you flirt with them? Did you establish rapport before going for the #-close?

Don't use text as a means to build attraction. That doesn't work. Use texting ONLY as a way for the two of you to get together.

iwantTRP · 2016-11-20T08:12:38+00:00

I'm sure I read this somewhere: if a girl doesn't feel comfortable with you, she's not gonna want to hang out with you.

yomo86 · 2016-11-20T13:44:58+00:00

Low or let's put it that way no off-the-charts SMV. Girls will get tea bagged and fucked in an alleyway and will even ask for it if you are high SMV. Men are guilty of ghosting as well. Most of the time I simply ignore fat chicks no matter how nice or how slutty they are.

Wampyr420 · 2016-11-20T19:13:55+00:00

Because you're coming off as too nice. No need to get to know a girl before sleeping with her. Only text to set up meets or tease her, chit chat will not help you get her in bed.

All_Ads_Deceive · 2016-11-20T03:24:24+00:00

Are you texting them immediately? Do you respond quickly? They usually ghost if you don't project yourself as high value

JackGetsIt · 2016-11-21T13:59:56+00:00

There's two arenas with women. Before and after you've declared yourself interested. Spend more time in the before arena, use subtle body language and play women off each other. Once you're in the 'after' arena you need to be direct and set up fun meet up's quickly. If she slow plays you just next her. Never get offended that a girl ghosts you. Women change their mind all the time and it doesn't always mean you have a low SMV. Just keeping fishing and enjoy the fishing part.

detachedbymarriage · 2016-11-20T06:23:13+00:00

The truth. They are Bored.

You are either boring or someone/thing is better at giving them attention.

Edit: I didn't read the whole thing, if you are meeting these girls online then this happens, you are probably not building rapport properly or they had no intentions of meeting you in the first place.

Title	Why do girls keep ghosting?
Author	Swagbbbb
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	November 20, 2016 2:47 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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