Not sure how to go about this but, I been talking to this girl I’ve had a thing with for a while. It’s been on and off since we both have different schedules. However recently I decided to try to be serious and see what happens with her.

Shes tried to shit test me a couple of times which I just laugh at or ignore but there is this one guy whom she told me wanted to fuck her. I didn’t really care at the time I just ignored it since we weren’t serious at the time. She must have thought that I forgot because I’ve noticed that they still are in contact, and considers him a “friend”. When its kind of obvious this guy is waiting his turn or something else. I haven’t brought it up though.

My question is what do I do in this situation? Should I just drop her? Or is there an appropriate way to make her drop this guy.

I’m not really fully committed to her atm and I was thinking on establishing frame and telling her that if we are going to be talking, I won’t tolerate that. Also I was going to say that I felt bad for the dude since he’s obviously waiting on her. Basically that we can speak once she actually shows she’s serious, and then just not speaking to her until she reaches out to me.

She’ll probably complain or try to make up some excuse but I don’t mind ignoring her.

My question is how do you go about this without looking like a beta? I don’t mind cutting her off until she realizes what I meant but I don’t know how to do it appropriately.