How did you find your mission in life?

[deleted] · 2016-11-30T19:52:46+00:00

Dove 100% into everything I came across that seemed interesting. The things that I enjoyed the process of (rather than the outcome) I kept in my life/mind.

Note: This leaves me "unproductive" for months at a time when I see something new, and learn it only to find out I don't like it, and the outcome isn't really satisfying/worth it.

Shamlei · 2016-11-30T20:24:08+00:00

Self respect is something that takes time, it's basically putting reals over feels most of the time (Going to the gym instead of staying in bed, approaching instead of staying alone...)

To develop that thing you need to have a vision of the man you want to be, and for each action ask yourself if the man you want to be would do that.

But then that raises another skill that you might lack as well, not lying to yourself.

Tl;dr : It takes time, try it, fail a lot and with some time it will sink, don't despair.

savagedealer · 2016-11-30T18:35:03+00:00

Free yourself mentally from all worldy things then you'll find the only thing left is yourself ... understand that you are always the answer to all your happiness and sorrow ... the external world is a bitch and shit happens we can't always control but what you do with it is always in your hands ... if there's one thing I could change about Every man in this forum is to remove the doubt in his mind he has about wether or not he can do anything .

Red_Invictus · 2016-11-30T19:50:26+00:00

I'll share how I found mine, but only to stress, you really have had some idea of your mission all along, just not the form it would take.

Or, another method I like posed by (sometimes) RP writer/coach Mark Manson - how much are you willing to suffer for something? That's the best way to figure out the things that you REALLY want. All of us want to do all the cool shit, but which of those things are you really willing to suffer for, and put your nose to the grindstone to work for?

I found my Mission in Martial Arts at the start of 2016. Wanting to do a martial art of some sort has been one of those things in the back of my mind for years, but never got around to. It was one of those "it would be cool and fun to do things."

Anyway, how I got to this point; I really wanted to join the military as a teenager, was a hardcore cadet in ROTC and I was really inspired by our leader/colonel. I knew on some level, in the end, I wanted to be a leader like him, seeing how he helped a lot of the young men in our group. It was a way of reaching a lot of what would be otherwise troubled youths. He taught us far more than just how to fold flags or marching drills, a why to pay attention to detail, a why to have masculine virtues like self-integrity.

Do you have a superior male figure in your life? One who could be a teacher, or simply one who you actually want to emulate, in some way?

So, the seed was there, to be a coach or a leader of some sort, and joining the military was simply a means to that end - I wanted the experience and discipline and all of that which I'd need to be a good leader someday. I spent many years in my 20s trying unsuccessfully to join any and all the branches, and was disqualified from all of them (reserves included), due to a bullshit hearing disability I didn't know I had since I was a child. My "mission goal's" "form" turned into wanting to do something with physical fitness and coaching, so I spent a lot of time then proceeding to learn about the physical fitness world, sports medicine, medicine etc and what that entailed.

Eventually, when I signed up for that martial arts class at the start of 2016, when my Sifu asked me what my motivations were, I realized I saw someday running my own school as the goal, as a means to help troubled youth, and do that whole leader thing I wanted to do since I was a kid. And, at the risk of sounding arrogant, teaching martial arts (someday) feels like a far more meaningful path to me than trying to motivate fatasses at a McGym to stop eating so much shit and to motivate themselves.

This is in a nutshell how I found my mission - the desire was there all along, I just didn't see how it would take form. TLDR: get out there and keep doing shit, even if some doors are closed to you, you'll find new paths if you keep trying, and remember what your deepest real desires were when you find them. When you have a clear vision of how your desire manifests (the form) - then you have your mission.

how did you develop self-respect?

To answer your second question, that's up to you, and takes time.

Title	How did you find your mission in life?
Author	TheRedINTP
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	November 30, 2016 5:56 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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