I am young and still friends with my high school friends I've reached expected conflict and am not quite sure how to navigate these friendships that are starting to feel dragging and unreciprocal. I am an aspiring to be my own HVM. I am a pretty laid back friend, and genuinely empathetic to the problems of my friends, essentially my bs window is alot wider than it should be and it's something I am working on. I also went through an insanely horrific mental health crisis where some friends were there for me better than others, so I kind of have more patience because of that but Ill try to give people the same energy they gave me.

I have two major friendship conflicts right now

Friend #1 : doing the typical disappearing act with her boyfriend of not even a year. I gave her a mental 6 month bs time frame, yet she is still acting like she is the only one who exists in our friend group. My other friends have also noticed she has become a shitty friend who worships the floor her boyfriend walks on and any sense of personality she had before is just gone. This really happens with even the most unexpected women. I mean they have not been dating for a year and she has already treated her friends and family like shit in service of his own. Anyways Im just going to cut my losses on his one, she's showed me how she is did something similar with a other friend that ended up screwing her over ( does not value my friendship) so unless she ever realizes and apologizes im not picking up pieces for her. Also can't tell if he is LVM or HVM but I know she is just after the dopamine hits of a relationship, engagement wedding baby, the trifecta of female fantasy apparently.

Friend #2: was a huge pickmeisha all of high school constantly put me in compromising positions and abused my friendship. Honestly she REALLY changed because I would not even tolerate her old bs for a second. However she was in a toxic abusive relationship with a guy who basically pimped her out and stole all her money she recently made from sugaring when she was 18. I have alot of empathy for this as I understand it. It seemed like she was in a good place and left him behind, and was really seeing how fucked up he was. I was super proud. Yet she willingly just went back to him, Im tired of this. She does not have kids with this man or depend on this man her parents are well off yet she still chooses scum. Not only that but on top of that she treats all and any advice I give her as always wrong. In the beginning when I said well you know what youre getting yourself into as long as you are okay with it, she later spins it and says I did not care about her enough. Yet now when I act like it is a big deal, Im overreacting and not knowing the complexity of the situation. I am trying my best to support her as a friend but I can't handle these mind games. I just wanna shout " YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO IS NOT LOOKING OUT FOR YOU", I have so much genuine sympathy for women in these environments. But honestly we do get to comfortable in our victim role ( not in the way scrotes think) sometimes it feels we are powerless, but we have to pick up our own godamn pieces.

I am trying really hard to be a valuable and fun friend, I desire strong female friendship more than anything but godamn it is so hard to find. My friends probably hardly know I feel this way but I am ready to jump ship. its alot of effort for a whole lot of nothing. They also never engage in conversation or topics beyond their own interest or self ( like major only talk about selves not ask about friends or be reciprocal energy) , I just genuinely am so lost friendship wise in this lifestyle.