this is all over the place I apologize

Me and my ex LVM dated for three years. He was the first guy I’ve ever told my parents about and was my first serious relationship. When I first told my dad about him, he was incredibly sus..... from the jump, my dad had a really bad feeling about him and refused to meet him. I’ve tried twice and still, refusal. My dad is old fashioned, he thinks that meeting a man means that it’s one step closer to engagement or marriage (which wasn’t the case for me because I really just wanted my dad to meet him). My mom met him a couple of times, and she liked him but there was one time when me and him went out to lunch and his sister called him to come home because of some computer shit, so instead of telling his sister that he was out with me, we had to cut the date short. My mom was furious that he did that.

My ex invalidated me, had hot and cold communication, had terrible conflict resolution, cheated on me, then told me to stop speaking to the friend who told me that he cheated. He also ghosted me for 10 days towards the end of the relationship after I had asked him what happened with his mother (we (I) made plans to go out for our anniversary but he had to cancel twice bc of his mom). Basically all this shit increased my anxiety and I really thought I was insecure because of myself but really, it was because of him. I never told my parents all of this... I only told them some of it when the relationship was over. Clearly, I made excuses.

I feel like my dad could see right through me... maybe he didn’t want to meet him because he knew that my ex was bad news. My ex introduced me to his family and his extended family at his brothers wedding. I have never done anything to jeopardize this relationship. He also helped me get a job and everything. Idk if this is reaching, but did he do all of this because he felt bad that he cheated? Literally all of this happened after he cheated... like a few months after. But yeah, my dad refused to meet him. He only met my mother.. and the embarrassing shit that he said was at the end of his brothers wedding. So basically, he had walked me out of the venue and as we were walking he asked if my dad was going to be there. I said no because he works until 11:30 at night (which is true, I wasn’t lying). We then went out to meet with my mom (she drove me to the venue, my dad wouldn’t let me drive there lmao), they exchanged hello’s and he then had the audacity to say “I made sure she didn’t drink or get drunk” or something along the lines of me not getting drunk which is fucked up because he knows I don’t drink at any occasion except for one drink. I have never been drunk or unaware of my surroundings. My mom made a stank face because wtf lmao. Thank God my dad wasn’t there because he would’ve beat the shit out of him.

Was my dad not meeting my ex due to my protection? He even mentioned that he expected me to be with someone outside of our ethnicity (my dad is the same ethnicity as my ex and he doesn’t like the men which is really funny).