Hi,

First off, I'm (24F) extremely grateful to come across this page. It really helped me with my breakup with my ex(24M), who cheated on me by using dating apps and then came around almost every two weeks not to "fix" things but to breadcrumb me. He recently made an appearance (i unblocked him after 4 months and didn't think he'd find out so quickly). However, after just exchanging 5 messages-- he started lowkey ghosting me, so I decided not to reply and block him again.

When he returned after 4 months of absolute NC, I got an ego boost that he still wants me and misses me. I wanted to show him that I'm doing better without him etc. (very pick me). I miss the idea and potential of him, but when he started responding 15 hours later, it took a hit on my self-esteem (eventually, I blocked him again w/o responding). But I felt I had made progress with this part of me, but I guess not. Sadly, I do not know how to overcome this ego boost or let my ego take control.

I've been going to therapy, meditating, and working out, but I feel I did not make much progress after this encounter last week.

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Any help/advice would be appreciated -- (I will not be making the mistake of unblocking him again).