I removed myself from the dating/relationships scene because it was so much effort for very little reward. The last girl I was with was a disaster for my mental and emotional health. I can only imagine that it would've gotten worse if I didn't end it, and from my experience now I'm just tired of it all. In my early-mid 20s btw.

That said, how do you handle sexual urges? We're human, and they come. For me I've used porn and its helped a lot. I don't feel addicted or anything- I can go without it, and I proved that to myself when I was stuck somewhere recently for 3 weeks and I didn't need it.

The only downside for me is that it leaves me extremely exhausted lately. I got blood work done and my vitamin D levels were extremely low (thanks COVID). Since taking supplements its gotten better, but I know there's a direct connection with how tired and weak I feel and how often I use porn/masturbate. Makes me feel like maybe I should quit, but I don't know how else to deal with these urges. I don't even see myself as a high libido person, but when the urges come they are intense. Definitely do not want to get back into the dating scene. I'm just over it, its too much work.