Young man.

AlinYBN1 · 2021-01-17T05:08:58+00:00

I'm going to quote the user '' u/ThrowAway640KB '' he's been an amazing inspiration to me and the way he said it made everything crystal clear, a wise man indeed, this will help you. Here goes :

''I don’t get attention from women,

The older you get, the more you will realize this is a blessing in disguise.

As a young man, you are being led around by your nose by your hormones. You are likely to gladly suffer a wide range of women, even those significantly close to the bottom of the barrel and waving more red flags than China, because you have few to no options in the first place. And it’s because of this that you are blinded to how so many of them will not provide anything other than a negative-sum balance to your life.

Seriously.

I am wrapping up my fifth decade on this rock, and having observed a fair share of relationships among friends and family, I need to assert that solid relationships that stand the test of time are very much in the minority.

Plus, the entire framework of relationships - societally and legally speaking - is deeply misandric and virulently anti-male. You will be seen as the bad guy regardless of what you do. You will be held as being at fault regardless of how shit goes down. You will have all the responsibilities forced upon you while being denied all of the rights. You will be found wanting despite your best efforts; nothing that you do will ever be “good enough”.

I’m not saying that good women don’t exist. They do. My wife is just such an example, and being in that lower-80% cohort of men who are “below average”, I fully understand just how fucking lucky I got.

But “good women” have always been in the minority, and have become functionally extinct over the last three decades. You have a better chance of winning the powerball ten times in a row with the exact same set of numbers. You are fully free to go looking for your unicorn, just always be aware of the systemic disadvantages that you will be labouring under, and the vanishingly thin likelihood of success.

Finally, you will only ever find peace with yourself and your life by becoming intrinsically (internally) motivated. Relying on extrinsic (external) motivation (such as finding or being in a relationship) means that your happiness and life satisfaction will only ever be subject to the approval and presence of others and what happens to you.

It is only when you master intrinsic motivation - by focusing on yourself, your own goals and achievements and personal improvements - that you can find fulfilment entirely within your own power and sphere of influence. And it is at this time that any friendship or relationship shifts from a requirement to a value added proposition.

When you are intrinsically motivated, you are the master of your own ship, and the generator of your own happiness and life satisfaction. You are no longer chained to events and conditions that you cannot control.

Focus on yourself. Put yourself first. Make your own priorities the head of the queue regardless of how your life goes down. Look out for number one. Your hormones are giving you the ultimate head fake, and while you may not understand this now while you are young and randy, those who are wise will understand it eventually.''

I hope these words help you just as much as they did me.

the_passenger8989 · 2021-01-17T04:30:16+00:00

I've experienced, and currently am, similar problems. The answer that I came with may be a reflection to the stage I'm in: Find something that you enjoy, some subject that takes your mind off these things. May be an activity such as a sport, learning something useful. In my case, it's tech, mechanical enginnering and circuits. In doing so, talk to other dudes and improve social skills always, start little and work towards improving it. You didn't mention Aba and Preach, they have good content and some of their videos adress this as well and they helped me a lot

Hope to have helped, and good luck

arisanod · 2021-01-17T04:54:22+00:00

Get employed and better yourself, you cannot have value until you create value.

Focus on the work and the reward will be great, focus on the reward and the work never gets done.

nyegeza · 2021-01-17T05:04:12+00:00

At 19 you are raved with testosterone and due to it, you want to have several moments of sex...

Keep your head down. Work on your career and be the best in it. At that age you will ignored by girls your age and women in general but never mind about it, from my experience and other men experience, the girls are riding several of the cock and later they will be looking for you or WAATGM.

Try and not get addicted to anything and when you will be around 28 or 30 and look back at your years, you will see that chasing girls was all bullshit. Your purpose matters.

the-tokoloshe · 2021-01-17T08:38:52+00:00

This might not be very helpful to you, however.

You are good at something my friend. Everyone is. Find your niche. To you it may not be something extravagant or lucrative financially speaking. But you are good at it whatever it may be. Do that thing you are good at, focus on it and make it something you draw your personal esteem from, thank your god(whoever/whatever that is to you) for your ability to do that thing.

Generally men are good at doing things that are utility value to society (driving trucks, fixing things, building things, analytical and critical analysis, sanitation work, post men, even picking things up and putting them down etc) Start there, draw happiness from that task and accept compliments that you earn. Do that task for yourself until you are good enough at it to teach another young man to do it.

While you do that thing, I suggest you stay away from women to the best of your ability. They will come to you if you are successful and show that you are successful.

Always remember, women will gravitate to success because they want to exploit the resource value of that success. Very few men are successful at 19. Your own definition of success will come to you much later on in life.

I hope this helps you Good luck

mortymorty789 · 2021-01-17T05:26:06+00:00

Don’t go looking for a woman until you learn to enjoy life fully by yourself. Use that time to embody and personify the best qualities you value in a human being.

chals777 · 2021-01-17T09:54:54+00:00

Better to be in your shoes then divorced in usa...

cleats4u · 2021-01-17T17:13:57+00:00

Most of my life I wanted a cheerleader. Someone to tell me I was wonderful, good, kind etc. I was addicted to their praise. It released those feel good chemicals in my brain. Then she was gone, telling some other man those things that used to motivate me into becoming what she wanted me to become. This didn't happen just once, it happened over and over again. I could almost predict what their next behavior would be (not nice). Then I realized I was going to have to become something on my own for me...not for her or to keep her. That is when I grew up. And my whole life changed. So can yours.

brainenfuego · 2021-01-17T20:58:46+00:00

Listen...it’s hard to know what you want when you’re young. Your dick wants to find the closest warm, wet hole to hang out in, your brain has so many things tearing at it for attention every day. You came looking for advice and you’ve found a good bit of it, so I’ll try to keep it short. This is what I told my son when he turned 20. It hasn’t done him much good because he hasn’t listened yet, and I don’t expect him to anytime soon as he has a live in girlfriend and tends to be/think with a liberal mindset, much to my dismay. But life is for living, and mistakes are made for learning...

Read books. Take the time and READ. Your education isn’t and shouldn’t be limited to school or university.

Read Rich Dad Poor Dad, like immediately. All of Robert Kiyosakis books are immensely valuable.

The Richest Man in Babylon is an amazing book as well.

Read red pill content by Rollo and company.

Make your vocation your hobby. Learn construction, carpentry, painting, drywall, concrete. Learn how to work with your hands to create things of value. Learn how to build cabinets, how to build tiny homes, learn trades that make good money while also teaching you how to create useful things. Learn how to refinish snd build furniture, learn how to flip cars and motorcycles, learn how to play music on the guitar. Find niches inside of industry to exploit, learn how to speak a different language, learn sales and marketing. There is so much to learn. NEVER stop learning.

You say you’re unemployed...go find a way to make money. Become an entrepreneur. It’s the best way to create wealth. There are thousands of books and ways to do this. If I could do it all over again? I’d take my knowledge and use it to flip houses and real estate.

Get busy, buddy. You have a blank slate in front of you. Good luck

clintjamehollerith · 2021-01-17T05:32:01+00:00

I think most would agree with me to say that if you did have enough looks, charm, status, and money to attract women they would still not respect nor love you. They will simply put on a good show just to get the money out of you. A woman will still cheat on you even with all that. This is why MGTOW exists. It because we know that all women are indeed like that. Feminism has ruined multiple generations of women. In the end women will put themselves first above the relationship. You are nothing more than an ATM to them. The instinctive drive to pair bond is strong. However, if you feel miserable now, chances are you are going to be just as, if not more, miserable married to a modern woman. Even if you find a good woman, she will always have you at her mercy, because family courts always favor women. She may be good now but people change, and she may be influenced by her friends to divorce rape you after you have built up a lot of wealth. Like you I have longed for the affections of women, but I have a long history of misery because of them, including friends and family. If you do find someone that gives you a second look, don't tell her anything about your financial situation, and if you get married, put most of your savings in an offshore account. Of course never have joint credit or savings accounts with her either. Hire a financial advisor to help you secure all of your wealth in case the worst happens and she decides to divorce you. Although, if you play your cards right you can keep her thinking it would be less advantageous to divorce you if she thinks you don't have enough to bother going to court over it. Secrecy is the key. However, that is a lot a stress over a lifetime to worry about, so my advise is to go your own way.

almost_strange · 2021-01-17T05:48:14+00:00

Find a job, do things that make you happy. Attraction is not about what you do, but about what you show outside.

arvimania · 2021-01-17T05:02:12+00:00

I think you're looking for r/trp. It's more at your level or what you're after. You can either get burnt and go mgtow or get smart and mgtow.

Regarding social skills, I'm not extroverted but get me on a topic I'm interested and I'm the MC of the group.

Liking people is an important factor for social skills.

Getting laid is good, transcending the need for getting laid is better.

Such_Temporary_9597 · 2021-01-17T05:13:21+00:00

Get greg addams book free agent lifestyle and stop being such a giant pussy

TDurden757 · 2021-01-17T21:37:13+00:00

Don't focus on the women. Just concentrate on improving yourself. Get a job, hit the gym, get a hobby, etc. There are so many things you can do. Also, you are young and have a lot of time.

BigLurker · 2021-01-17T05:04:09+00:00

bro if you're trying to get laid, get off this subreddit and stop taking in any more red pill content. It will only lead you to pain. The stuff you see on here is not normal.

Title	Young man.
Author	Rocky9down
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Date	January 17, 2021 4:11 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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