Slept with a girl on first date, now she wants to slow down?

The_BitterTruth · 2017-01-07T17:28:08+00:00

We text back and forth, flirting the next day

I'm guessing you're inherently needy with nothing better to do but text this girl all day. You texted her too much and your soft spots came through. Just use text as a way to plan logistics. I don't text my plates for anything but setting up a meeting time/place.

She doesn't want a man who has the time or nothing better to do than text her all day. She wants a man who is important and busy.

Next time she texts you send her, "busy text you later"

Work on being less needy.

Docbear64 · 2017-01-07T17:29:18+00:00

Sounds like you're engaging too much , things are starting to feel too much like a relationship . I've seen this play out where she was subtly indicating she was no longer interested , but perhaps if you just reduce texting and contact drastically you can pique her interest again , ultimately though you're showing her too much attention or coming off too eager . Time to exercise your abundance mentality, she's cool , you like fucking her , but remember she's not yours, it's only your turn . Go out with other women , let her miss you a little bit ( by not being so present) , and see if that spurs her interest again .

trudatness · 2017-01-07T23:51:05+00:00

Ditch the oneitis, say OK, go ghost for a few days minimum.

Bet you she texts you.

If not then after a week text and ask if she wants to hang out.

This is a signal that she just wants to be a plate. Grant her wish.

LeadSlinger11 · 2017-01-07T19:26:03+00:00

Sounds like an anti-slut mechanism.

Either she feels guilty for fucking on the first date or her goal was a one night stand and she is trying to backpedal from anything that will lead to a relationship.

I say ghost her and move on to the next. Unless there is plate potential. Otherwise, I wouldn't fuck with it any further.

LeadSlinger11 · 2017-01-07T21:10:52+00:00

You didn't fuck her good enough. After your first fuck, she should be begging you to come see her the next time you guys talk. She should be telling you all her kinks because she has decided to make you her main cock.

_PowerBull · 2017-01-08T01:41:33+00:00

The first fix was free and now you're hooked.

Probably sees you as a beta and will use sex to controll you. You need to forget about her, if she registers this you may be able to plate her and make her beg for more cock.

2comment · 2017-01-08T02:10:14+00:00

"When you're done taking it slow, you know where to find me."

She can dictate her rules all she wants, just show her she's not the only game in town. Probably were too available for her.

ecosci · 2017-01-08T03:02:17+00:00

Your not alpha enough to branch to she sees you as beta bux stop being too available.

htbf · 2017-01-07T19:14:04+00:00

She sensed you wanted more than sex and it threw her off.

Or the opposite, she sensed you only wanted sex and it threw her off.

If we knew what you told her, it might help read the situation.

[deleted] · 2017-01-08T06:16:43+00:00

Anti slut defense (she feels weird about giving it up first date and doesn't want you to think she is a slut for it) or you were acting beta or she is fucked in the head.

Most women after fucking a dude they like want to fuck again and often real quick.

MattyAnon · 2017-01-08T15:50:59+00:00

Yeah, this sucks. She either wants more power and more control over the situation, or wants you to be a good little sexless beta.

Do not put up with it.

You want to (in a subtle way) imply you'll see other women, also only see her at her house or yours so that sex is a possibility. If she turns sex down, soft next.

Don't jump through her hoops.

Title	Slept with a girl on first date, now she wants to slow down?
Author	TheGatesOfValhalla
Upvotes	13
Comments	26
Date	January 7, 2017 5:23 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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