Need advice on LTR

haveagoodlaugh · 2017-01-14T21:15:45+00:00

"I dont care if you cheat I'm gone"

bad move. you didn't even have to verbally respond to what she said

you don't know her intentions, but you know dan's intentions. and she knows dan's intentions as well.

i can understand a girl not wanting to bike/hike around a country alone. but inviting a male friend along is just disrespectful to you and your relationship.

when you said you couldn't go, she should've either cancelled or rescheduled for another time when you could go with her. anything else is pure disrespect.

most importantly: she's testing how far she can push the boundaries. she may not cheat, but she gained a lot of power in the relationship with this move.

raisins3142 · 2017-01-14T22:03:29+00:00

First, you can't let her do anything. She's a grown woman. But you can choose how you react to her choices.

She hangs out with another guy walking dogs a good bit, and now they will be alone having this great adventure.

I know she had this trip planned and doesn't want to cancel, but this is a really dumb thing for her to do.

I'd leave her for even wanting to do this.

Gawernator · 2017-01-14T22:36:12+00:00

I wouldn't stay with a girl that would travel to a foreign country without me with another guy. That's too much disrespect. It's not what you want to hear, but there you go.

anotherswingingdick · 2017-01-15T07:51:17+00:00

She just turned your relationship non-exclusive.

She's having dates with Dan. What else can you call it??!?

Wake the fuck up. Chase other women. Plate this one. She's just another ho

When she gets back, always fuck her with a condom. Don't even verbalize anything else. Don't go NEAR any argument about it. No negotiating. It is your final decision.

She can earn back your exclusivity, if she tries hard enough for the next several years. After all, she already double-crossed you once.

Yes, Bamar girls are hot. The good news is..... there's 30 million of them waiting for you.

Take your next vacation in Yangon. Fly there by yourself.... she did.

SkorchZang · 2017-01-14T22:53:25+00:00

Post your pics of your awesome life without her for sure if you have them. Keep up that plausible deniability though "what, it's just an innocent pic, I thought you'd laugh"

This thing where she's travelling with "Dan" is not looking good.

You gotta understand something very clear in your head, the only reason you're having the problems and the squirming is that you're exclusive with this girl. The only reason you're exclusive is because she wanted/needed it, and you agreed out of love for her goofy ass.

So add up 2 and 2, and it takes the edge off a lot. If she's cheating it's her own problem, not yours. If she comes back and you so much as suspect something, you can always walk away and she'll be the one crying, not you.

But here's the key, when a woman adorably cons you into being exclusive with her, you want it to come with strings attached, with condiitons she has to live up to to be worthy of it. This is kind of a lost art at this point, almost no man thinks this way anymore. But that's the paradigm, she must actively conform to your expectations to be worthy of exclusivity. THIS is why her father would never permit her to go on such a trip, and she even pointed it out to you, tauntingly. Part of her is laughing at how damn confused and stupid men have been reduced to being.

I think the overall lesson can be broken down as a) should never have let her go on this trip and b) since that's already done and too late to change, post the pics with your face in other girl's tits, then act like it was pure innocence and/or an accident, and "aww I just really missed you sweetie and her tits reminded me of you". Make HER be the exclusivity-worryer as much as you can, that's the only way you get to keep your balls. If she gets a whiff of how you're insecure and worried about what probably went down on her trip, you'll be emasculated and helpless in her eyes. Conceal it, make no mention of "Dan", don't ask any interrogation questions starting with "just curious..."; what's done is done.

Whether something actually went down or not is irrelevant. It's the fact that she was willingly in a situation/arrangement where those things happen, threatening the exclusivity pact with you and possibly making a fool of you. That's what really matters, and it should not have been permitted for that reason, it doesn't matter how much you "trust her" (and it shouldn't be much, she might be a very nice trustworthy girl but it's still a woman and AWALT)

Title	Need advice on LTR
Author	ChrystalSystem
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	January 14, 2017 8:52 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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