Gender conflicts cannot be resolved. They are intractable. Women will not let them be resolved. A man who is at peace with himself is of little use to them.

The challenge is not to change women’s perception of men. What women think of men doesn’t matter. Nothing that is outside of your control truly matters. You cannot control others’ perception of you. You can only control your perception of yourself and of others. The challenge, then, is to change men’s perception of themselves, each other, and of women.

The resources to effect these changes can only be found through men’s communion with themselves and with other men. Whether intentionally or not, women distract men from achieving the goal of harmony with themselves.

The best thing I can say about women and the men who worship them is that I’ll be better able to tolerate both groups if I first work on accepting myself as I am. This includes tolerating their relentless pressure to change me without actually letting them do so.

Women and the men who worship them are the foundation of popular culture. Popular culture has one message and one message only: groups matter more than individuals, and women are the most important group in human society. Their wants and needs supersede those of all other groups. They must be protected and provided for at all costs.

Groups lack objectivity. They lack the ability to observe themselves. Only individuals can do that. Only individuals standing outside the group can tell when the group is in danger of coming apart. This makes the individual both the most important member of society and the least appreciated, as the individual tells the group things they need to hear but don’t want to.

My envy for people who live primarily in groups has begun, at long last, to wane. It wanes in direct proportion to the clarity with which I see the limitations of groups and the benefits of becoming more truly independent of them.

They have always existed more for the benefit of women than for men, and this has always been the source of my frustration with them. The more I understand the true nature of groups, the more I see how little they have to offer me, and the more I’m able to look for ways of living that better meet my needs.