[California] Will I get 50:50 joint custody of our children?

PestilentMexican · 2021-07-06T20:23:36+00:00

Get a lawyer ASAP and file for divorce assuming you have been separated for the six month cooling down period the CA requires.

The good news is family law in CA is based on "best interest of the child" and it has been established that 50/50 is the goal in CA. 50/50 is only not a guarantee if there are substance or domestic violence allegations. The key word is allegations, which is why it is important to file first for divorce and get your story out to the court on your terms. If she throws allegations at you it is important to note that family court is a civil court, and the burden will be on you to prove your innocence which could take months or years depending (fucked up I know but that is the system, it is designed to protect the child but it gets abused frequently).

Get a lawyer, don't be afraid to ask around you need to protect your rights. From your story it appears you have been accommodating her mis-deeds. She will never reciprocate and the courts will not care that quite frankly she is being a C*%#, they only care about the children. You need to get your story in first.

I know lawyers are expensive, but what is even more expensive is hiring a lawyer to unfuck a bad situation. Your kids are worth it.

All that being said if you can stay out of court great!! But still get a lawyer to walk you through your rights, do not give something up expecting a favor in return. Stand your ground!

Good Luck

SwamiSweatSocks · 2021-07-06T20:15:13+00:00

California ALWAYS favors the mom in my experience. She will get over 50% almost guaranteed. California 100% favors women in the courts, they are always victims, they always get favorable treatment. It's how the state and court system works, however judges/commissioners use "best practice" so there's no actual solid rules on most things. Note when your ex gets over (maybe just over 50% custody), she also gets the tax deduction on the kids and head of household as well. Have no faith in the California system. It will let you down every time, from my experience.

Title	[California] Will I get 50:50 joint custody of our children?
Author	dndungu
Upvotes	10
Comments	9
Date	July 6, 2021 7:02 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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