They have been off and on best friends for about 13 years. My wife and I have been together for 11 years. M32 w29. Her friend is now divorced, goes to the bar often, smokes ALOT of pot. A couple months ago I made a solid rule of no drugs at my house, a couple weeks later... her friend broke that rule. I was livid... but just walked away and made it known I was upset about it... her friend threw a fit and said fine, I dont want anything to do with you anymore. Since this girl has been divorced, I have been somewhat of a dad figure for her kids while her husband is in prison for trying to kill her, and assaulting me, with a pistol to my head no less. So anyways... he is locked up for 1 or 2 more years. Today, I came home from lunch and her friend is just chilling at my house waiting on my wife to get home... I guess my wife invited her over and she got there early. I told my wife I was uncomfortable and it felt awkward with her being there, even though we didnt say a word to each other... I went back to work, and was thinking... so I texted her friend. It to come over anymore, they can hang out... but to please do it elsewhere... she called me every name she could, saying that she is going to continue what she is doing because my wife invited her. My wife knows I dont like her and that she doesnt like me... now this girl... is a bad person, legitimately in my opinion...on top of the drugs, she does it right in plain sight with her kids in the living room or bedroom, she walks around her house naked with her kids present f8 and my. Who are both already fucked up from what happened with their dad....

Am I in the wrong here? What can I do, or should I or not? Keep in mind, my wife and I are already on the edge of divorce and she "isn't sure if it's worth it to her to save the marriage "... but I'm tryingimproving improving areas of my life that need it... she has bad anxiety and cptsd... I try my best to understand and support.... but I'm pretty sure her friend went to her and told her of our conversation... her friend called me controlling and I'm sure relayed that to my wife.

I need advice ladies and gents!!!