Where’s the line of “moving on” and remembering the good(or at least not pretending it never happened)?

StormlightZero · 2019-03-31T12:11:59+00:00

I would recommend that unless you're a heavy Facebook user or if you're using Facebook as one of your primary ways to communicate with and get support from friends and family, that you just stay off Facebook for a while and revisit your feelings in a month. If you still want to erase those memories, do it.

BoringDesk · 2019-03-31T15:31:41+00:00

I’m torn too on this. You can’t erase a part of your life though, you need to be able to accept it, come to terms with the end, and move on.

I don’t think erasing it is healthy. What happens when you encounter some aspect of your former life that reminds you of those memories? Do you want to be overwhelmed or controlled by those memories? I think there is something to be said to staying away from it for a time but erasing is absolute. You’ve learned lessons from that relationship and you should acknowledge accept and move on. Easier said than done but best long term strategy... I’m still working on it as well.

sleeze02 · 2019-03-31T18:53:32+00:00

It is tough man. I struggle with this dilemma as well. If you find the answer; let me know

ttomottomo · 2019-04-02T02:08:44+00:00

I deleted and or destroyed or threw out every single thing that we shared or that reminded me of her. No regrets. She threw out our marriage and had no regrets doing it. I don't even want to try to remember any 'good' she and I had together because I don't see the point of it. Btw just delete facebook. life is too short for such a distraction.

Title	Where’s the line of “moving on” and remembering the good(or at least not pretending it never happened)?
Author	Tiggerhoods
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	March 31, 2019 9:34 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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