My wife left a week ago and says that it is over, she wants a divorce and I am not changing her mind. She has not filed anything that I know of so far. We live in Michigan, moved back from North Carolina about 7 years ago after my military service. We have been married for 10 years, we grew up together. She has refused to talk to me besides through texts and even then she ignores me most of the time. I found out yesterday that she is already staying with another guy, She says that she left because we have grown apart and she doesn't love me anymore. We do not have any kids, we have had trouble having kids and tried multiple treatments a few years ago. I think this is when our issues started, my wife took it hard and and she got depressed. I think that is when she gave up on our marriage. She has left a few time over the past couple years saying she needed space, it was usually for about a month. She would come back and things would be fine for a while, but I could tell times where she would start to get distant again and be unhappy. She always said that this is not how she pictured her life turning out and she was just unhappy. She tried to go back to school at some point but she didn't stick with it very long. She just started a new job last year and just recently got a promotion so I thought that would help her feel like she was accomplishing something with her life. We were finally getting our finances under control from the mistakes we made in our early 20's and were planning to buy a house this year. So I thought things were getting better and our future was looking better. She seemed ok until about a couple weeks ago when she started getting distant. She has said that it is not anything wrong with me, but its hard not to come to that conclusion when she left me for another guy. She is not changing anything else in her life besides me. She has been my best friend for the past 20 or so years. I'm finding it hard to not try and talk to her somehow. It's hard being so close to someone for so long and then they are gone and want nothing to do with you. I've had a very unproductive week at work, and coming home to an empty house is not any better. Everyone keeps telling me time is the key, it will get better. I'm trying but its hard to imagine my future at this point. If anyone takes the time to read this I appreciate it, I know I'm kind of rambling and all over the place but that is kind of where my head is at the moment and I'm hoping venting here will keep me from trying to talk to her for a bit.