I guess we can roll this one up under self-esteem crushed.. idk? I'm just totally sick of the threats from her.. the ones where the moment i mention anything that is against her will she drops threats... even though we're doing the divorce via a mediator (36M / 34F / Kids: 2M / 4F) in the netherlands.

Just this weekend was STBXW's birthday she invited me via facebook (we live in the same house) day comes around.. pretty much turns out i'll be the only guy there so she starts hinting for me not to hang around in my own house.. party starts people trickle in.. at 10pm she flat out asks when are you leaving? sends whatsapp messages aswell.. 10:10 i decide i'm sick of this and go to bed. only to hear laughter while going upstairs and briefly listening in on dirt slinging among themselves about me.. next morning I get plenty of dirt slung at me for not buggering off earlier.. and she bascially implodes on herself.. laughing at me for wanting co-parenting saying i can forget it. She is two-faced and ready to threaten with going full custody... probably if i even forget to put the toliet seat down (slight exageration there on my behalf).. anyway another example..

As we are getting a divorce i thought it would be smart for me to transfer my salary to my own account instead of the joint one and transfer just house expenses money for bills etc.. now if i dont transfer all my funds to the joint account she threatens taking her salary off the joint account completly not contributing.. im just sick of this situation..

Also: "if your not home by 5 tomorrow we'll start celebrating sinterklaas (dutch tradition you dont get a day off for) without you" she very well know's I work till 6:00-6:30pm nice am i still playing the victim?

I dont have wonderous oneliners as answers to these threats i just want out of this whole situation. Im starting to if not already doubting myself and wonder if i am playing the victim..

TLDR; STBXW is threating at every option, and sick of me playing the victim.. am i playing the victim or what? idk?