Need support.

funnygurl179 · 2017-10-14T15:05:55+00:00

I agree with the above comment. It's much better to grow up seeing two people that love each other and learn what it means to love. If you grow up without that, you learn bad habits and misguided lessons, unintentionally. It's not the end of the world however. I had some hard lessons to learn because I didn't have that nurture growing up, but I still learned what it means to love someone and yourself. It just took more time.

From my experiences, most things come out in the wash. It's worth trying to work things out with people than quitting too early and going back and forth afterwards. The back and forth relationships people do are damaging and dramatic. Take your time and figure out what you think is best for you and your son.

I am in a great relationship with someone of two boys and previously divorced. Him and his ex are extremely civil and she is happily re-married. The boys see two positive relationships now, instead of the one negative relationship.

On the other hand, a family member of mine has been suffering through a horrendous relationship with the mother of his only child. He stuck through it for two years. and recently the mother decided to act for what's best in the interest of the child. Ever since then, they've been good. It's been a complete 180.

So, I think, no matter what you decide....as long as you remain in your child's life, that's what important. Especially since you want to do what's right for them. Many kids don't have that.

MNCPA · 2017-10-14T08:00:08+00:00

Difficult decisions - I'm thinking positive thoughts for you.

edit: spelling

WZPV · 2017-10-14T12:16:07+00:00

Hard decision there. Is it better to grow up with divorced parents or in a house with two people that can’t stand each other? My parents were divorced but managed to stay civil through the years and it wasn’t bad at all. I would have much rather it have been that way than having them stay in a loveless marriage. I think the way both sides handles it after the split has more to do with how the child will remember it than the actually split itself. Everyone’s experience is different though and I’m aware mine wasn’t typical.

Title	Need support.
Author	NavigatorDad
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	October 14, 2017 7:28 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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