It looks like I'm getting a divorce and I had no idea it was coming. We have been married for 14 years and we have two children that are 9 and 12. I am 39 and she is 36. Neither of us as drunks, never any abuse, and no cheating until she started to cheat on me over the last few months. We hardly ever fought and things seemed to be fine until about six months ago. She wanted to go on a cruise but then changed her mind because she was overweight. Then she decided to go on a diet and booked a cruise with enough time to lose weight which she did. She also started tanning, getting her nails done, and hanging out with two friends one of which is divorced and is a party girl and the other goes for married men. She also started drinking a lot. One night I come home from work and she is drunk already. We where going to the bedroom to have sex and told the kids we where going to talk and one started crying and asked if it was about divorce. Turns out she had talked to him about it the night before. She told me she is not happy and hasn't been for a long time. We where supposed to be working on things and one night she went to a party and had some sexual contact with one guy, fingered by another she also made out with, and fucked the girl that is her friend. The thing is she was never like this. I always thought she was a little bit of a goody goody but something switched overnight like she has a brain tumor or something. She says that she doesn't care about anything anymore. She has always been great at her job but now she is always in trouble at work and her relationship with her mom has deteriorated even though they where always close. I just do not know what happened. It came out of nowhere. We are going to go to marriage counseling but she even said she doesn't expect it to help.