Please help me get rid of my approach anxiety.

Werealldudesyea · 2017-02-26T20:14:35+00:00

Approach anxiety is a product of putting women on a pedestal. Just talk to women you find attractive, it's really that simple. Don't use lines or try to pick them up using "game" talk. Just talk and lead them through the conversation. Keep it light, keep it superficial at first. End with asking for a number with the intention of meeting somewhere.

What helped me a lot was to really understand that most women are literally dying for some dude to walk up and talk to them. Women respond to excitement and emotions, approaching them would be the highlight of their day. Just keep trying, you'll get better.

wheel_ · 2017-02-26T21:47:30+00:00

Something that is helping me overcome approach anxiety is talking to strangers that you see in your day to day activities. Just strike a conversation about anything: weather, sports, something s/he is wearing, food, literally anything. It could be small talk or a conversation about the meaning of life. The purpose is that you do it some many times so that you get used to, AT A SUBCONSCIOUS LEVEL, talk to people you don't know. So when you are at the club/bar and you see that girl you want to talk to, you open a conversation with her like if it was second nature.

Are you at the store? Strike a conversation with the cashier.
Someone is asking you for change (i.e. money)? Strike a conversation and then give some change (or not - up to you).
Are you in an elevator with an old man or woman? Strike a conversation with him/her.
Are you at an event with police officers around? Strike a conversation with an officer.
Are you in line to get food? Strike a conversation with the person in front of you.

Start a conversation with anyone you see, apply social cues if that person wants to keep talking or not, read body language, repeat.

Hope it helps.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-02-27T00:16:29+00:00

Your goal should be to get rejected and shut down by 50 women. If a few of them insult you, that would be ideal.

This will help you to not give any fucks.

Even a fucking nuclear holocaust gets old, after the 50th time it happens.

JackGetsIt · 2017-02-27T02:29:32+00:00

I pull chicks through social circle game

Must men do. It's a good place to start.

overall amused mastery attitude

If you genuinely have this and approach enough you shouldn't need to be asking questions here.

I feel like I'm far FAR away from a proper game status.

I have no idea what this even means. If this is some arbitrary number you set in your head of quality or quantity that's just silly. You will find yourself sad and depressed if this is your only goal to hit some type of 'game' plateau.

seems like I don't have any balls left after full time job and lifting.

Again I'm confused. If you have amused mastery, social circle, 'I'm the prize' mentality you shouldn't need a bizarre amount of energy to land women.

And it's making me pretty mad, I might just kick myself in the face.

Sounds like you're just in a dry spell (by your own standards) and this is sapping your self confidence and it's effecting you energy you put off and it a vicious cycle. Bad energy, less women, bad energy, less women. When it's dry it's dry and vice versa.

Sounds like you need a mini break and then drop your standards and 'genuinely' stop giving a fuck.

I wanna ball out.

Again I have no clue what you are talking about.

Sounds like you get your dick wet here and there but you've set unrealistic expectations. You need to just keep chatting women up and let the chips fall where they may. Relax.

What changed my game was also having a standard starter for nights that I'm low energy. I really like just asking women to dance. If you can get a women to say yes to anything, even something small then more yes's will flow as the night rolls on. Also just have fun and play some more push pull game. Get women talking and in to you and turn away and talk to other women and then circle back around to your first one. Works wonders.

Title	Please help me get rid of my approach anxiety.
Author	holzpuppet
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	February 26, 2017 6:14 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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