Unfortunately, even when AITA seems relatively sane, it's usually for the wrong reasons. Look at the thread again. People are voting NTA because the mother put him in a lose-lose situation. But make no mistake. Those same people absolutely view gender preferences as sexist. If you would be happy with a child of either gender, but you would rather one over the other, AITA considers that horribly sexist.
There was a post a couple of months ago, where OP was a husband and father to a handful of daughters. I think he said he had 3 or 4 daughters and no sons. He asked a doctor if there were any ways to influence the gender of a child. Things like when to have sex during ovulation, or position of sex. The doctor said there are a few things they can try. That was the essence of the story, and AITA slaughtered him for being a misogynist. They claimed that him having a preference for a son was clearly rooted in his perception of boys as more desirable than girls. People completely ignored the part where he already has 3-4 daughters and no boys. It's pretty fucking normal to want at least one of each. I'm pretty sure most parents who have 3-4 of one gender would at least subconsciously hope for the other gender in their next child, just for the variety and experience. This poor bastard is a man in a house filled with only girls, and he just wants a boy to connect with when it comes to boy things. And AITA attacks him for being a misogynist.
Never underestimate how stupid people on AITA. Just about every time I find myself agreeing with the votes in a thread, there's some ridiculous reason bringing them to the same overall stance as me. It baits me time and time again. "Oh hey, they are being sane for once!" And then I read their justification, and nope.
There's nothing to discuss. Nothing to rationalize. Nothing to explain away.
You're mother was blatantly of of line by weaponizing your childhood against you. This is a significant character flaw and you are absolutely entitled to an apology, though she likely doesn't have to capacity for such a thing.
I'm a gay male. I've had to come to terms with the likely reality that I will actually have a child one day. When that happens, it's going to be a boy. Call me sexist so you want, but there's no way I'm going to spend my adult life raising a girl. Those things drive me crazy, and I'd rather not have children than have a daughter.
To balance out the equation, I once knew a woman (very privileged) who had three adult sons. All good men. She confided once that she hated the idea of having daughters.
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Unfortunately, even when AITA seems relatively sane, it's usually for the wrong reasons. Look at the thread again. People are voting NTA because the mother put him in a lose-lose situation. But make no mistake. Those same people absolutely view gender preferences as sexist. If you would be happy with a child of either gender, but you would rather one over the other, AITA considers that horribly sexist.
There was a post a couple of months ago, where OP was a husband and father to a handful of daughters. I think he said he had 3 or 4 daughters and no sons. He asked a doctor if there were any ways to influence the gender of a child. Things like when to have sex during ovulation, or position of sex. The doctor said there are a few things they can try. That was the essence of the story, and AITA slaughtered him for being a misogynist. They claimed that him having a preference for a son was clearly rooted in his perception of boys as more desirable than girls. People completely ignored the part where he already has 3-4 daughters and no boys. It's pretty fucking normal to want at least one of each. I'm pretty sure most parents who have 3-4 of one gender would at least subconsciously hope for the other gender in their next child, just for the variety and experience. This poor bastard is a man in a house filled with only girls, and he just wants a boy to connect with when it comes to boy things. And AITA attacks him for being a misogynist.
Never underestimate how stupid people on AITA. Just about every time I find myself agreeing with the votes in a thread, there's some ridiculous reason bringing them to the same overall stance as me. It baits me time and time again. "Oh hey, they are being sane for once!" And then I read their justification, and nope.
[–]Shard3606[S] 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]ShoutoutsToSimple 2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
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[+]HeartOfSky1 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
There's nothing to discuss. Nothing to rationalize. Nothing to explain away.
You're mother was blatantly of of line by weaponizing your childhood against you. This is a significant character flaw and you are absolutely entitled to an apology, though she likely doesn't have to capacity for such a thing.
I'm a gay male. I've had to come to terms with the likely reality that I will actually have a child one day. When that happens, it's going to be a boy. Call me sexist so you want, but there's no way I'm going to spend my adult life raising a girl. Those things drive me crazy, and I'd rather not have children than have a daughter.
To balance out the equation, I once knew a woman (very privileged) who had three adult sons. All good men. She confided once that she hated the idea of having daughters.
[–]Shard3606[S] 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]HeartOfSky 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link