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My boyfriend [22] was drugged and raped by two of his female friends. [Houston, TX]

Kodiak01

December 9, 2020

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My boyfriend [22] was drugged and raped by two of his female friends. [Houston, TX]

7,389 points•126 comments•submitted 8 months ago by iwishiwas_aborted to r/legaladvice

Last night during a friend gathering, my boyfriend had his Gatorade drugged by two of his female friends, who then proceeded to undress and sexually assault him. He doesn't remember much, he remembers passing out after drinking his Gatorade, and he remembers gaining consciousness once during it happening and one of the women saying that he should just lay back, pretend that it's me doing things to him, and that he should enjoy it before he passed out again. He's a black man, and the two women in question are white and Hispanic. He refuses to report this because he doesn't believe the court system will help him in any way. He did not drink anything alcoholic during the gathering, and the only drugs he took were put in his drink without his consent. What can he do about all of this in terms of legal action?

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Title	My boyfriend [22] was drugged and raped by two of his female friends. [Houston, TX]
Author	Kodiak01
Upvotes	25
Comments	9
Date	December 9, 2020 8:08 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/k9zigc/my_boyfriend_22_was_drugged_and_raped_by_two_of/
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[+]fjik1623-1 points 5 years ago* [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link

He's probably lying to you.

I would first search for hard evidence of what they put in his drink, not a lot of things can do what you're speaking of to a man... Allow him to get hard while simultaneously being unconscious.

A guys friends don't just leave a guy at a house with 2 girls unless they know sex is about to go down and are complicit in it, I would start there because this is the start of the lie.

[–]otterlyclueless 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]auMatech 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[+]fjik16231 points 5 years ago* [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

I'm super pro men and equality, but just stating facts... If you look at her other posts you'll see :

It's a long distance relationship
His 2 guy friends left him there with these girls, first of all if her man was so adamant about not hooking up with anyone HE would have left his 2 guy friends alone with these girls, not the other way around. No guys leave their guy friends alone with single girls unless they are trying to help their friend hookup.
Very few drugs have this capability, maybe GHB or Ketamine but even then it's very hard to maintain an erection and you don't really go in and out of consciousness like he describes, it just reeks of BS.
BF is unwilling to go to the police or the doctor to get blood samples to test for drugs and cites "him being black" as the only reason. Come on if he was legitimately raped and wanted to save the relationship he would go to the police if only to gather more evidence to convince his girlfriend it's true. Or if you really buy the whole police hate black people thing at a minimum go get a rape kit done immediately and a blood / drug test. Nurses aren't racist.
This is where you all are really going to hate me, but OP just had to mention the girls are white and latina, this whole thing just screams victim mentality and using it as a scapegoat. The reality here is OP is the victim.

OP, if your man won't get this stuff done it's only because he doesn't want to falsely accuse someone of rape and go through that process because it could come back to bite him. He has every reason to do so if his story was true.

Go ahead and downvote me because it fits your narratives I can be the only one that lives in reality while she continues to get lied to and mentally abused in this long distance relationship where he is clearly cheating.

[–]IronJohnMRA 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]auMatech 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

OP, if your man won't get this stuff done it's only because he doesn't want to falsely accuse someone of rape and go through that process because it could come back to bite him. He has every reason to do so if his story was true.

This is like that argument which goes "why don't women come forward when they were raped to get tests done etc? Well they must not have actually been raped, or have something to hide, etc."

The point is, you can try to draw conclusions as much as you like. Fact is, you can't know what happened.

It's a long distance relationship

Doesn't mean anything

His 2 guy friends left him there with these girls, first of all if her man was so adamant about not hooking up with anyone HE would have left his 2 guy friends alone with these girls, not the other way around. No guys leave their guy friends alone with single girls unless they are trying to help their friend hookup.

Not sure what kind of friends or female friends you have, but this is so untrue.

Very few drugs have this capability, maybe GHB or Ketamine but even then it's very hard to maintain an erection and you don't really go in and out of consciousness like he describes, it just reeks of BS.

Erections aren't voluntary, they are responses to stimuli usually. an erection is not consent and one also doesnt need to be completely erect to be raped.

I mean, you could be right of course, but the fact that you're so adamant to jumping to this conclusion is sad, would you have done the same had the genders been flipped?

[–]IronJohnMRA 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]IronJohnMRA 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link