How to find strength in a society that doesn't love men when not even my parents love me?

trash62 · 2020-10-22T15:17:41+00:00

Be in this world, but not of it.

I do know what you are talking about and experienced it myself, it's extremely dark and depressing. It's a feeling that if your "creators" don't even like you, you aren't worthy.

Yet without some form of "cause" you can not exist, something "created" you, and the big illusion of the matrix is that it feels as if society created you. The very same society that hates us.

What is female validation but a form of positive judgement from women? We are sort of driven (in the illusion) to seek out this validation, and make them our "creators". Why do you suppose it hurts so much to be abandoned and to realize it was all a lie? It's because, at a subconscious level, your "creator" has abandoned you.

All of this is false and truly waking up is a process of realizing that whatever or whoever created you, it is not of this world and therefore, neither are you.

Hope that helps.

BirdOfHirmes · 2020-10-22T14:54:01+00:00

You're not going to receive any help from society, as you've already discovered. So, your first step is to love yourself since you haven't and probably don't trust that love to come from anywhere else (save for your dogs).

How do you do that when nothing else loves you as you are? Introspection like you're doing helps, being aware of your situation. You've come to terms with the fact that society views you as useless unless you provide. But your self can be disconnected from that and you can appreciate who you are separately from what society says you should appreciate. This is entirely easier said than done.

In the event you want to love yourself as fully as possible, you have to take care of yourself, similarly to how you take care of your dog, surely. Exercise, a good diet, enriching activities you enjoy, and the discipline that comes with making yourself follow these new self imposed structures. The first two keep your body healthy and the last one keeps your mind stimulated. When you perceive yourself as looking good, when you feel good physically, and when you're happy with yourself as is, you'll find it even easier to love yourself. As a result, you'll have likely met conditions that satisfy what society wants from you to be loved.

If it helps you at all, you are not alone in this struggle. Good luck, feel free to DM if you want to talk further.

2020-10-22T14:48:51+00:00

For me I've never really had a support system and the love that's good for a healthy and happy child or even really person and when I got older I noticed it even more because people expected more self reliant and not express my emotions and take care of others whereas my sister was told she can be more reliant on me and needed to open up more. I've learned to find that will to live for me and only me so that I can help others. I always put others before myself because it helps me keep going. Of course that's not what you should do necessarily, I'm saying find what keeps you going when nothing else does

RockmanXX · 2020-10-22T19:13:06+00:00

Embrace your discontent, use it as fuel to do what you need to do in life to be financially&emotionally independent.

You need to be your own hero, it's harsh but that's the optimal survival strategy for Men. I'm not telling you "Man Up" like the assholes down in the comments but you need to avoid being bogged down with self doubt and fear of missing out.

Dls95405 · 2020-10-22T21:20:03+00:00

Find someone you can talk this out with. A group, a friend, a therapist, a school counselor, whatever. And don't worry, they don't have to be an expert with the purist motives, just the act of actually telling a real person what's going on, helps you process it and move on to bigger and better things in life. Best of luck to you.

caem123 · 2020-10-22T23:24:37+00:00

I reach out to other men. Message them. Invite them to lunch. I'm having lunch with someone I worked with 10 years ago. I plan to visit another guy friend on election night to watch some of the initial returns.

RyansPutter · 2020-10-23T02:25:20+00:00

"We are expected to trudge through life without society support, but I don't believe no one but my dogs (the deceased one and the current) loved me truly. My parents never told they loved me, not even in my childhood."

I have plenty of support. Most men do.

You need to find better friends and disown your family.

cld8 · 2020-10-23T02:28:16+00:00

In many cultures, it's not common for parents to verbalize their love for their children, especially male children. That doesn't mean they don't love you, it just means they won't express it verbally.

343-guilty-mendicant · 2020-10-23T13:53:00+00:00

Personally in myself, I’m a completely independent person for this exact reason I have no choice.

FollowpathnotOthers · 2020-10-22T18:29:34+00:00

Dude grow up and be a man. My mom died in car accident when I was 9 and my dad assaults me frequently. I still have sex and gfs. Don't be a faggot

unix-boomer · 2020-10-22T17:35:10+00:00

it's not because you are a man lol, it is because you suck balls, sissy

Title	How to find strength in a society that doesn't love men when not even my parents love me?
Author	chalk_boards
Upvotes	23
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Date	October 22, 2020 2:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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