Sad that this is the norm. how can we as men change / help woman perceive us as not monsters or uncomfy. maybe this is not the right sub to put this in

I'm a guy. I have a sister and a bunch of female friends, and they often talk about how being somewhere with men they don't know can put them on edge and freak them out, and I've seen plenty of posts online that make it seem like this is a pretty universal experience for women. This is obviously completely rational and reasonable, but it makes me really sad to think that I might be adversely affecting someone's mental health without even knowing it.

I struggle with some trauma myself, and when I get reminded of it, I feel really awful and frantic. I hate thinking that I might be doing that to someone else.

Do any of you bros have tips on how to make myself un-scary to strangers? I don't need to be friends with everyone I see, I just don't want to make their day worse.

Sorry if this post is a little scatterbrained, I'm not exactly sure how to phrase all of this. If it doesn't make sense, let me know.