Hi everyone, I'm 23. How do I not screw up my love life and future.

fhigurethisout · 2015-10-22T14:26:29+00:00

Lol seems like troll post since you have no history and an interesting username. Your ego in terms of needing to look better than your future man is a turn off and sort of a red flag.

It is obvious where to look for good men, so just make sure you are a good woman to begin with...it's much more than being an 8.5 out of 10 and being approachable,lol, but i guess that's a start

Code_Bordeauxx · 2015-10-22T13:10:00+00:00

I'll leave the suggestions for improving your personality and social skills part to the ladies, but in my experience the most valuable men can be found in the locations where they go to actively improve themselves. IOW: think sports and hobbies. If you throw some adventure in the mix it may help bonding, but that has to suit your character. Options are endless, varying from taking sailing classes to joining a theater group and everything in between.

However, this comes with a caveat; if you only join in on these activities to snatch a man they'll quickly see through this, lowering the chance they see you as relationship material. I'd say do some soul searching and find something you'd genuinly like to do or learn that'll put you in a group with both men and women. In general, just participate in activities and chat people up. I'm sure you'll do fine, you have about the best starting position you can have.

htbf · 2015-10-22T16:27:43+00:00

I have no idea what happens inside churchs but I'd say try to attend church related activities ?

You're not the only one with this issue though, every religious man and woman looking for marriage and not much dating is stuck with the same question : how do I find prospects without compromising my religious beliefs (i.e by not engaging in promiscuity). Ideally, family and relatives should handle it for you by providing options but unless you're lucky and your family shares your beliefs AND have a large social circle, you'll have to count on yourself.

Trust me though, it could be worse for you.

TempestTcup · 2015-10-24T22:45:24+00:00

Thanks for the replies. I assure you that I'm not trolling in any of the posts and that my username is meant to be sardonic.

g8m3 · 2015-10-27T21:08:39+00:00

Since you're looking to find a man that shares your religious beliefs, I'd suggest looking at church/church functions. Most churches have pot lucks, cook outs, etc. Some even have singles events specifically for this sort of thing.

Talk to everyone. Not just men you find attractive. (in fact, bouncing around to every attractive guy at every function and trying to seem charming and interesting could give the kind of guy you're looking for the wrong idea.) If you're talking to an old lady and she thinks you're a good girl with a good head on her shoulders, the first thing she's gonna start doing is trying to set you up with her sons/grandsons. If you're talking to a guy that is interesting but not attractive, you can still pick up useful information, such as ideas for where to meet other interesting guys who may be more your speed. Networking is how you meet people, and the more people you meet, the more chances you have to meet the person you're looking for.

Red flags are pretty self explanatory, most women pick them up subconsciously and lose attraction for a man anyway. A man is always going to pursue you sexually, but if he becomes angry or frustrated when you tell him you want to wait, he's clearly looking for someone else. If he is hideously interested in everything you say, and is never bored, even if you're being boring, if he agrees with everything you say, even when you're wrong, if he lets you order him around, he'll never hold your interest long. Men who are disrespectful or impolite to waitstaff, strangers, or subordinates, that's a red flag. Ask him what he likes, ask him what he hates, and ask him what makes him angry, happy, sad. You can tell a lot about a man by the things that spark his emotions.

For the most part, my best advice to you is to focus on being the type of woman that would impress the type of man you're looking for. Do you have hobbies? do you do charity? do you help people? Do you like kids? Do you know a lot about a subject matter that most people don't understand? When you meet the guy that you want, you want him to want you back.

Volunteer for things. Help people. Show respect. Show empathy. Know yourself, and know what you want, and settle for nothing less.

Good luck.

WorkOfDreaming · 2015-10-25T17:33:23+00:00

The thing is that a girl that is a 9 will not have any problem at all attracting men. After going to a party, and only chit-chatting with men who have some mutual friends to you they will add you on Facebook or start following you on Instagram etc.

Dating online, you will be showered with messages from nice guys who should fill your criteria easily. Note however that if you are, say a 6, the story will be completely different, and the amount off commitment you can expect from any average guy will be lower. This means that you would have to sort through more men and use various techniques to verify commitment.

[deleted] · 2015-10-25T22:34:51+00:00

Think it's prudent for an update. My self assessment of looks got some private messengers in a huff. With the sort of effort and enhancement we take to look great at prom or a wedding, I am nine. That's rarely 7 times a year. If I dash out of bed it is eight and a half. Being on the cusp of say top 15% means that in one small school cohort of 200 girls, I could be the 20-30 most attractive. When you think about it, it's not a huge deal at all. There are hundreds of millions of 8 and 9s. The top 5% in my school competed in miss universe or and I'm not claiming to be that.

Title	Hi everyone, I'm 23. How do I not screw up my love life and future.
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Date	October 22, 2015 10:33 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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