I looked at the comments, I was the only one to say “YTA”. Everyone disregards their father’s inalienable right to know about the baby. Not just that, I myself am pro-life, and to see them defend killing a baby simply because it’s a a mere inconvenience to her is sickening and sad.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend after he found Jesus again during our relationship. I'm firmly agnostic and he was athetist until he did a 180 after his father recovered from Cancer.

We have a lot of mutual friends as we both went to a Christian private school since both our families are various degrees of religious.

I found out two days ago I'm two weeks pregnant and have booked a termination since I'm uninterested I'm having a child with him. I confided in a close friend who is ultimately prochoice but she's said that I'm an asshole if I don't tell my ex about the kid before I do it. She thinks he deserves to know as the father and emotionally it will devastate him if he finds out in the future.

I think its more damaging if he were to grow attached to a child I have 0 intention of keeping. I am almost 100% certain if I tell him, he will harass me to keep it and try get together again. He's gone full fundementalist and one of the reasons we broke up is because I refused to go to church with him.

Would I be an asshole if I refuse to inform him and getting a termination without his consent?