The Ever-Escalating Problematizing of Male Sexuality

NotKnownHinson · 2019-10-24T18:31:27+00:00

Ehhh this is a bit tricky to be honest. But I'm going to give it straight. It comes down to how you look. And ugly man can say hello and be seen as a creep whereas if you're conventionally attractive or fit some other means of attractiveness such as feminine pretty boy you can say and do virtually anything you want. I've said some creepy shit over the years things that the vast majority of men would get kicked in the balls for. Biologically society is driven by looks and no matter what the media tells you that hasn't nor will that ever go away.

dontpet · 2019-10-25T00:23:23+00:00

Dobre dan.

I'm almost 60 so have a bit of experience to speak from as a man.

It's been this way since I was a kid. We spoke about creeps and so on back then. We didn't know how to approach girls/women, but definitely having a sexual edge to the approach was not something I knew about nor witnessed.

I suspect things overall didn't change much that way. But the way it has changed is young adults are much more informed about sex as a pastime than we did. And some of that knowledge may happen too early in the adult journey.

I wonder if some of the more athletic, fetish related sex isn't better to have unfold over a decade of personal exploration instead of having it in the menu from the outset.

Having that early information about the full sexual potential when approaching each other detracts from the larger emotional experience is just engaging and exploring sex together.

So my argument, however weak, was that until your mid 30s, it used to be that naivety spared the focus on sex and approaches were much more consciously driven by other needs.

I didn't know what a blowjob was until I was 16. I didn't know that most of the women I would later be lovers with liked me to explore being fairly assertive. S and M was a massive joke about peers and anal, well, we knew about it but I expect there were very few exploring this. Nevermind pegging.

A little innocence allowed people to deny sex was in the discussion and possibly reduced the ready escalation that could be happening now.

DrMdj · 2019-10-24T19:06:09+00:00

I know I'm unattractive and have zero social skills

That is what is affecting your perception OP, no it's not an ever escalating problem. The thing about being "creepy" is it comes down to the other persons standard of creepy looks/appropriate behaviors.

You sound quite paranoid, I'd advise paying a visit to your doctor, talk through these things with professionals.

Title	The Ever-Escalating Problematizing of Male Sexuality
Author	CzechoslovakianJesus
Upvotes	48
Comments	6
Date	October 24, 2019 6:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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