Have you ever been sad when your boyfriend is busy?

PinkTulipz · 2016-11-15T14:46:48+00:00

What exactly is the situation? Is he working? Are you guys long distance? Does he not spend his free time with you? It all depends on what is keeping you from seeing each other.

videlachkadua · 2016-11-15T16:24:19+00:00

I met my guy in June of 2015, when he was working 1 week on and 1 week off in oil. He also lived an hour away. The key was to have the same goal in mind. We both wanted a serious relationship that would eventually lead to marriage. We also had an end point, when we would no longer be apart so much, which is when he moves to my city when we marry next year. We see each other mostly on the weekends now, but if you consider the history of dating, today's mentality of seeing and talking to each other all the time is relatively new and probably not as healthy. If you don't have a common relationship goal and can't see an end to the limited time you see each other, if you're just having fun, find someone more convenient. If you have a common goal and clear end point to the time constraints, get some hobbies.

My only criticism: You have unlimited characters on this subreddit. Give more information and articulate more complete thoughts. Spell out the word "please" and other words you might normally abbreviate in a text message.

videlachkadua · 2016-11-22T06:04:32+00:00

Hey girl, my boyfriend works very hard also and yes this means that I don't get to spend as much time with him in comparison to the amount of time I spent with previous boyfriends. Feeling lonely, or wanting to spend more time with him does not make you clingy. But please, don't dwell on things you cannot change. Obviously your man wants you in his life because he hasn't broken up with you - You need to keep your chin up, and have faith in him and your relationship. Be strong, don't dwell on what you can't change and focus on really making the most of the time that you do spend together. If it gets to a point where you feel that you are not supported, talk to him about it.. If nothing changes, you may need to re-evaluate the relationship. I know it's tough, but take each day as it comes. You've got this, girl. And the /r/redpillwomen have got your back. xx

oh_hey_tharr · 2016-11-16T14:53:47+00:00

If you only see him a few times a year and he doesn't reply to texts for DAYS, I think it's time to either have a serious chat about commitment and trying to make more time for each other or just moving on altogether. This relationship sounds really one sided. I know it hurts, but that's the truth.

PinkTulipz · 2016-11-15T21:11:47+00:00

Lol, no. I love spending time alone and being busy myself. I don't have time to be "sad" about my boyfriend having a life because I'm reading, lifting heavy at the gym, enjoying sun/nature, sleeping, working, etc.

You sound clingy.

Title	Have you ever been sad when your boyfriend is busy?
Author	videlachkadua
Upvotes	3
Comments	14
Date	November 15, 2016 2:11 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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