About 1 in 50 women have a borderline personality disorder. https://www.nami.org/learn-more/mental-health-conditions/borderline-personality-disorder

This is 3 times as common in women.

About 1 in 20 women have a narcissism disorder. https://www.businessinsider.com.au/the-main-difference-between-narcissistic-men-and-women-2017-10?r=US&IR=T

This is about 60% as common in women.

My rough math is that if you combine the two groups men and women are very similar in number.

The difference comes when they engage with divorce situations, access to children, and domestic violence interventions.