I need therapy

bufedad · 2019-06-21T13:37:00+00:00

What kind of therapy, and where are you?

stopthinkdo · 2019-06-21T13:44:13+00:00

I've stumbled on your post after peeking at your search history from a comment made elsewhere, I really believe you need help but I'm not sure if MensRights is the correct sub for that so I suggest trying r/malementalhealth. I'm not sure where you're from but most countries will have 24 hour brief counselling lines to help you get through difficult patches, if therapists are unfeasible right now then I suggest you start to build the support network around you that you need asap, just try to be more open with your friends and family.

From what I've read in your history I would very carefully suggest trying to open your mind a little bit more to alternative views. I am not for a second saying your thoughts are invalid, just try to dig deeper into where they might have come from and the effect that they are having on you today.

I am glad that you reached out even if it's just quickly over the internet, depression is a total bitch. Let me know if you need to have a chat with somebody.

lord_dark_hobnob · 2019-06-21T15:27:50+00:00

outofthefog.website/links

ExcellentTraffic123 · 2019-06-21T15:28:10+00:00

In the past few years, I've become familiar with complex trauma and a I think that with the online community and the community of books, I've made a lot more progress healing myself than I was able to with therapists; not that therapy can't help.

I believe that complex trauma is far more common than most people think, if they are even familiar with complex trauma at all.

I'd like to give you a few questions to ponder that might indicate that perhaps you, yourself, are suffering from this frustrating pattern of ill-being. Bear in mind that I'm not a doctor and this is not medical advice; I'm simply another redditor sharing my knowledge and experience.

When you were growing up, did you have parents or caregivers who neglected your emotional needs or perhaps emotionally abused you, especially by repeatedly making you feel like a bad child or a defective person, even if you were well-provided for with things like food, shelter, or perhaps even family vacations?
Did you feel unsafe at home or in school?
Do you feel as if you are haunted by parents or caregivers than you no longer live with?
Do you sometimes experience emotional reactions to situations in your life that feel far out of proportion to what you are reacting to? Do you sometimes feel powerless to control these?
Do you sometimes experience thoughts or hear internal "voices" that feel as if they do not belong to you, or are somehow beyond your control?
Do you ever suddenly act in a way that feels out of character for you and completely inconsistent with the way you want to behave, and then do you immediately feel shame and remorse for those actions you couldn't control?

If you relate to some or all of this, I do know of some resources that may be helpful to you. You may be surprised at the possibilities for recovery. You can respond to me here, or if that's not comfortable for you, feel free to respond by PM.

masterdebator300 · 2019-06-23T16:11:18+00:00

Here's advice I got from my therapist, hope it helps you:

1) Be mindful of your thoughts. If you have a habit of negative self talk, don't just accept what your inner naysayer is telling you, challenge it. Journal frequently, so you can track what's going on in your head and try to correlate it to what's going on.

2) Figure out what you can and can't change. Life sucks, and what's worse, sometimes the suckage is entirely self-inflicted. But that's okay! Being your own worst enemy can mean you have the tools to make your life better...but sometimes that also means you might have to admit that every once in a while, it's more fun to be miserable.

3) If all else fails, do something--anything--else, so long as it's not ultimately not self-destructive. Sometimes the metaphorical dragon--even if that dragon is just your own darkness--is too big to tackle right then and there. That's fine. It's okay to not address a problem if the circumstances allow, especially if the problem is "existential angst" and the circumstance is "it's three fucking o'clock in the morning and I need sleep, damn it". Go for a walk, clean your room, listen to music...doing those things also has the upside of making your body more healthy, your life being more organized, and your mood improving.

Title	I need therapy
Author	masterdebator300
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	June 21, 2019 1:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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