Request for information

Chrisboy04 · 2019-06-17T08:33:32+00:00

Those people (I’m not going to pretend it’s just men that do this) have something seriously wrong in their brain, I personally wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I knowingly hurt somebody.

Year_zer0_ · 2019-06-17T09:17:41+00:00

Have you been to therapy? If you haven't I'd strongly recommend it. You have to understand that contrary to the ultra feminist narrative men who rape are few and far between. We don't all walk round salivating and preying on women. 99.9% of guys are not evil cunts.

duhhhh · 2019-06-17T10:44:33+00:00

I belive the problem is primarily cluater B personality disorders, not culture. Some people just don't care either in the moment or at all. You aren't going to fix them all. It takes years of therapy and even then many are not fixable.

All you can do is fix you. Try EMDR therapy. It is very different than most forms of therapy. Stop reading about how all men are rapists from people with an agenda that have defined rape only as penetration of the victim by the perpetrator which excludes about half the victims of non-consensual sex each year. They want to scare you and/or demonize men. Not help you.

goodmod · 2019-06-17T08:32:26+00:00

Men are people, like women are.

People have a faculty called empathy, which allows us to understand and share the feelings of other people.

There are some men who do horrible things to other people because they just don't care what other people feel. They can do horrible things to women or to other men.

There are some women like that too. They can do horrible things to men or women.

They are called psychopaths. They lack the part of us that feels empathy for others.

It's not a man thing or a woman thing. It's a whole human/broken human thing.

Sometimes it's useful for survival to have the ability to suspend empathy temporarily. For example, if someone violently attacks you, you need to be capable of hurting them to make them stop.

Some people suspend empathy for a long time, or don't even have it. These people are capable of harming others to any degree - though having the capability doesn't mean they will necessarily use it.

It's a fact of life that bad things happen. That can't be changed, but our attitude can be changed.

We can choose to stop thinking about the bad things that have happened in our past, and start thinking about what is happening around us right now. Developing this habit is one way of escaping from the trap of past trauma. It doesn't work for everyone, but it sometimes helps.

Vinniikii · 2019-06-17T09:27:51+00:00

It goes back to the normalized loneliness of men. Certainly men feel how our world is out of order, they feel the relentless suspicion and hostility from traumatized women. The majority use it as another reason to avoid talking to strangers in America. This removes good men from normal society and produces the current status quo where creepers are the only ones making advances in public.

iainmf · 2019-06-17T11:14:49+00:00

There are a few broken people who account for most of the violence.

A Swedish study of 30 years of data from the courts found that 1% of people are responsible for nearly twice as much violent crime as the other 99% combined.

The Dunedin longitudinal study, which has been following the same 1000 people since the 70s found that, while most people act out as teenagers and stop being anti-social as they get older, a few people are 'life course persistent' criminals. These people typically have a poor upbringing and also some kind of biological problem like a brain injury.

A large number of men who are in prison for raping women have been raped or sexually abused by women. This doesn't mean that men who were abused will abuse others, but the ones that do often have a history of abuse.

It may sound trite, but I wish you the best for your recovery.

Lethn · 2019-06-17T09:10:06+00:00

Do men have any regret for their actions? Is there any remorse that they feel? Do they worry about the pain they have caused?

Why should I feel regret when I haven't done anything wrong? You're trying to apply collective guilt to me and I can't be arsed with that. Going by your logic you should be feeling horrible about feminist ideology and the way they target young boys who can't find back or how they encourage women to falsely accuse men and ruin their lives.

Do you realise what a fucked up mentality that is? You need to see a therapist not attack men on the internet. I'm not going to take responsibility for something I haven't done, take your collective sin elsewhere. You being sexually assaulted or otherwise does not give you the right to attack me with impunity just because you feel uncomfortable.

Get professional help.

Title	Request for information
Author	BlueRose9
Upvotes	8
Comments	13
Date	June 17, 2019 7:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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