Conflicting TRP knowledge for LTR - escalating to fucking on first date but downgrading her if she does it

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-03-12T18:22:09+00:00

They have all fucked on a first date.

Whether or not to LTR a woman has only to do with her good behavior and your ability to manage her horseshit

quicklogaccount · 2017-03-12T21:55:04+00:00

Your answer might as well be "yes".

If she fucks you on the first date she is experienced and most likely has abundance. So she won't be easy to handle, she won't be submissive nor compliant. Chances are that she'll offer a take it or break it deal, and this makes LTRs hard to manage. Also, objectively, her sex is less worthy in itself, because it's easy to get.

From that you look at the mindset of 99% of men who enter LTRs, deep scarcity. And the reason, availability of sex. What you get is the recipe for a catastrophe, many issues, many traps. It probably will only work if the guy has an insane tolerance to frustration.

Now, you have men that have vilified sex for themselves, who don't care about how cheap her sex was, usually because theirs is cheap as well and sex overall is cheap for them. They'll be looking for other stuff that more experienced and attractive women have, and the more repressed and inexperienced chicks don't. So, they might not care about her being a fnl.

Tbh I strive for becoming one of the latter. My ideas have been changing a lot but I'm quite settled on the fact that my next LTR will either be a woman I've known for decades or a chick I banged on the first night and was a complete slut for me.
I REALLY dislike the idea of ever thinking "she was a slut for random dude but not for me" about my LTR again.

chadjugo · 2017-03-12T22:34:44+00:00

It's subjective. Good game and logistics can lead to a first date fuck from even a virgin.

mbillion · 2017-03-12T16:55:13+00:00

I guess it's up to you to decide. Trp isn't perfect. There are different schools of thought.

My opinion is it's always situational. For instance out on a lunch date I'm just setting the stage for things to come, if we do Friday night and there's attraction I'm definitely hoping to get laid.

As far as ltr goes, that's a whole different thing. You are looking for ltr on first date you're still not getting your head in the game.

Worry about ltr later. The first dates should be no expectation, no consequences, all fun. You're walking into first dates still thinking about an ltr future? They've still got you wrapped around their finger

Metalgear222 · 2017-03-12T16:16:58+00:00

if she fucks on the first date she's plate material only. she might have other qualities, but this is a harsh truth. just plate your first date fucks. you'll enjoy it more anyway.

raisins3142 · 2017-03-12T20:02:41+00:00

I swear, I'm so sick of this question.

My views:

Fucking on the first date is great. It feels good. But after I do that, I likely do not take the girl seriously, especially if her fucking me seemed like a matter of course to her. Heck, if it was too easy but only happened on the second date, it is still bad for a potential LTR. So, escalating early and hard is a test of the girl. If you fuck her then you get pussy and information about her. If you don't fuck, then maybe you have a keeper and you'll probably get to smash soon enough.

Will you now ask why I don't date women who are easy to fuck on the first date?

Title	Conflicting TRP knowledge for LTR - escalating to fucking on first date but downgrading her if she does it
Author	ahoy25
Upvotes	6
Comments	8
Date	March 12, 2017 3:36 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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