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If youre out at a bar or anywhere of a social gathering, if strong eye contact is made with a girl (one youre interested in), is it weird to walk right up and speak to her, or should u wait around and move in slowly rather then right away.

NexusReflexX

March 16, 2017
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Title If youre out at a bar or anywhere of a social gathering, if strong eye contact is made with a girl (one youre interested in), is it weird to walk right up and speak to her, or should u wait around and move in slowly rather then right away.
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NexusReflexX

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Date March 16, 2017 6:38 PM UTC
(9 years ago)
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[–]Docbear642 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

That's probably more attractive, plenty of guys do the eye dance and never make a move, the guy who catches eyes with you and introduces himself must be more confident than those other ones right ?

Just don't jog towards her or race like you're in a race .

[–]NexusReflexX[S] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Very true. I guess i justified it as chasing if i immediately went over there, but its more of "damn ur cute, i need to meet you now" kind of thinf

[–]Docbear641 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

In - person it's a little different . I have a cousin who's really cute you'd be shocked by how little direct male attention she gets. Her boyfriend isn't her equal looks- wise but He's fun , Smart, has a good job, and most importantly was one of the few dudes with balls to approach her .

That's why the sub stresses day / night game over online dating . When women have a pic , a profile, and a few messages to consider you over and 100 + men doing the same damn thing at anytime during the day the odds are stacked against you .

In-person though can you imagine how many attractive men with decent game actually approach attractive women ? Not a ton .

[–]NexusReflexX[S] 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah. I have this mindset of, "i dont want to be the only one standing really approaching women" as i dont like being the center of attention

[–]Docbear641 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I've been the shy , quiet, reserved type for most of my life and even now I am that person I just acknowledge there are times where I can be fun and loud and it be a good thing .

Anyway last year I was at this club and me and friends were dancing and this really cute chick walks by just on the edge of our group and near me and just sits there drinking staring all around .

I've never asked a woman out in my life but somewhere deep I find my balls and think " Fuck it why not" . I ask her to come dance with my friend group she agrees and then starts dancing , but not dancing with the group , she starts dancing with me . The place is packed with wallfower dudes who have just been looking around awkwardly all night and I promise in that moment I had the most intense realization how many eyes were on me and this chick . It was surreal but I wouldn't say it was bad .

When I asked the chick to dance there were a few thoughts in my head

"she's cute"
" She looks like she wants to dance"
" I'd like to ask her to dance"

There was what I wanted and that was it . None of the other people in the room mattered, the chick could have said no she didn't want to dance and I would have gladly have went back to dancing with my friends or whatever I was out to have a good time if she didn't want to be apart of my party then so be it .

At the end of the day people are going to think what they want or whatever . If some loser who can't approach women stares at you like you're a creep because you have the courage to actually do what just thinking about doing would make him die of a panic attack why does it matter ?

As long a you're focusing on having fun I think you're good dude.

[–]1900_year_old_vampire0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

no

[–]NexusReflexX[S] 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Cool

[–]molexp0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Eye contact from you only, then it depends. Usually it means move right away but not "right away" (start moving immediately but move slowly so that you are not in her face "right away").

If she made eye contact with you too and you get the feeling she is into you then go for it.

The female eye contact of being into you will give you an unmistakeable feeling, and it is more easily apparent and noticeable when there is more than 1 second of eye locking.

You will learn to identify those unmistakeable eyes once you have experienced the lack of resistance and the excitement she has being in your presence or in sharing contact details with you shortly after you initiate verbal communication or non-verbal actions with her, such as extending your hand out to her.

It is sometimes called the come fuck me eyes.

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