Let me start by saying I'm not sure this is the right forum to ask this sort of question and that I'm shooing for advice. Also I do not subscribe to the red pill theory but am mostly aware of the attitude. Lastly, I'm 28 relatively well to do, smart and a solid 7 in terms of looks 8-9 when I'm in shape.

Approximately 3 years ago I was dating a very lovely girl we dated about 3 months and were pretty much in love over our heads for the first month or 2. During this time I had erectile problems and that put and incredible strain on our relationship. After a lot of convincing I was able to take her to a therapist with me. This did not really help and she was still very reluctant to help me with this issue. Her attitude was that this is something I must take care of by myself and when I do we should get back together and try being a couple again, until that time shes going to try dating other guys.

I was heart broken.

I got my own apartment, and tried to solve my ED problems by myself for 2 years to no avail. During this time we dated a couple of times mostly when she was having fights with her boyfriend at that time. The dates were really positive and I got the feeling that if I had got my problem solved she would be very interested (which I didn't). For me it felt like I was being rejected over and over again by somebody I truly loved. I was on a 3 month working holiday in German and she came to see me with her family. We hang out for about a week and had a great time but again no sex. After that was over she started dating her ex-boyfriend again and I had a massive panic attack. When that was over I deiced I will not have this happen to me again and that I must cut all ties with her and do my best to put this relationship behind me. We met, I told her goodbye gave her a hug and walked away. Couple of months passed and I got a call from her mother saying she was in a really bad place and maybe I'd like to meet her again. So I gave her a call we met and again had a great date at the end of which she told me she just wants to be friends. I felt awful. Yet I couldn't let go and tried to stay in touch. We had a couple of nice conversations and then her boyfriend contacted me saying she was engaged and living with him and asked me to not be in contact with her because it's putting a strain on their relationships. I was again terribly hurt, mostly because she hid it from me. Eventually I came to the conclusion I should break all contact with her just as I deiced to do in the past. Now it's been a month or so we have not had any contact and her mom texted me again. What should I do?