How to react (or not) to flaking on a date?

19yoManChild · 2017-04-12T03:33:41+00:00

Wait there for 20 mins and if she doesn't show, pull a reverse flake.

The way to do this is after you waited 20 minutes and left the building and got back in your car send a text saying, "sorry I couldn't make it if you want let's reschedule?"

This will make it seem like YOU have the abundance and you might end up pulling her into your frame.

Doing this technique is the best way to respond to a flake ONLY if you really think this girl is worth it but considering that she flaked on you you are probably better off pursuing other options.

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throw162534 · 2017-04-12T03:37:47+00:00

First of all, never assume they're going to flake. That implies you're insecure. You should give 0 fucks if they flake.

Second of all, why the fuck are you doing a mid week date, dude? You're eliminating any chance you have of getting laid. Always do dates on Friday or Saturday night around 9 oclock. Go to a bar, get drinks, skip the food, then walk to another bar nearby. Make it as close to your place as possible.

Now onto your question. If she flakes again, I don't blame her. People have to work and she might be expecting sex aka "a late night", aka a shitty Thursday at work. But two flakes in a row is unforgivable unless she offers another time. If she does and says she's free, then ask her what day, then tell her you're going to X bar at 9 oclock on that day. Go to the bar and if she flakes delete her number and hit on other girls.

Pitchfork51 · 2017-04-12T03:38:17+00:00

Flaking generally happens because you were not so horrible that she didn't want to be a dick and not give her number but she didn't actually like you enough to want to go out with you.

In my opinion you should always go for a ONS and if for logistics or friends or whatnot that can't happen but you've kissed for a bit and she's down THEN you should her number. As a last resort.

But you should know when it's gonna work because she will generally ask you to get her number if she's leaving.

Honestly the number thing is overrated.

Just asking a girl for her number is probably in this day and age a 90 percent flake.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-04-12T10:35:35+00:00

Why are you taking a girl to LUNCH on your first date?

You are dead where you stand by doing so. Lunch = boring.

walawalawa · 2017-04-12T16:36:28+00:00

So we rearranged for Wednesday evening but she said she'd let me know Wednesday morning if she can make it.

If she says Wednesday is not available simply reply with:

"Oh, I had plans anyway, let's meet insert date of your chosing

This will ensure you don't come off as having waited and not had plans. Pass it off as though you were the one flaking.

Title	How to react (or not) to flaking on a date?
Author	TheRealST
Upvotes	3
Comments	17
Date	April 12, 2017 3:30 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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