How many guys here have attended counselling, or anger management courses, or anything similar to help get a handle on your actions and behaviour?

2018-08-28T22:16:25+00:00

A therapist is only effective if you really believe it will be, and put your trust in them, and really listen and think about what they have to say, and put their recommendations into action. If you aren't 100% committed, it's a waste of money.

Thatsmedanny · 2018-08-28T20:57:23+00:00

After a few bad breakups I took a, what was called “anger management” class then turned out to be a domestic violence class. It helped a little. It helped me make better decisions but ultimately what I learned is that it all comes down to choices. So moral or the class was make better choices and you break the cycle.

But! I will say this. I got into amateur mma and that was a game changer. The commitment, the discipline, and just sheer physicality has eradicated so much anger and angst.

QSHV · 2018-08-28T21:32:14+00:00

I was extremely suicidal from genital mutilation. I've been seeing a therapist for about a month and a half and it's definitely helping.

dontpet · 2018-08-29T05:00:21+00:00

I run a counseling service for men with us seeing about 120 guys per week. I suspect there are better ways to care for men but this is working for more according to the guys that come to us.

Ask for more info if you want.

We are starting an educational type men's group for anger soon because we have a lot of requests.

One thing I've noticed about the main anger services is that almost all the guys are there against their will. That makes it hard for people to make personal progress. They are all much harder guys for that reason as well.

Also, instead of being designed for effectiveness, they are much more designed to please outsiders such as the court and government. They are heavily steered by feminist logic from what I can tell as well, including having a woman co facilitator so the male facilitator don't collide with the clients. Pretty twisted I think.

TheImpossible1 · 2018-08-29T04:04:46+00:00

I was forced to back when I was at school.

Never attended.

I never had anger issues so I just threw in a load of sick notes.

antilopes · 2018-08-29T05:06:26+00:00

I did a course, six one hour sessions in a group of eight with two instructors. It was mixed, two or three women.
Some guys had been instructed to come by the court, others like me were having trouble with their partners or children.

Yes it helped. We discussed the nature and functions of anger, where it comes from in our own life. We learned how to predict its arrival and create preplanned tactics to deal with it constructively.

I didn't continue with any kind of counselling but in hindsight it would have been ideal for my wife and I to have been in counseling from early in our relationship. It is so much easier to catch problems early than to fix them later.

Ongoing reflection on anger is useful if it is still an issue. I have one person I get angry with and this reminds me I should do some advance planning on how to handle that.

2018-08-28T22:56:20+00:00

Disenchanted's Luci came to mind: DO IT! Doitdoitdoitdoitdoit!

If you're thinking about doing it, do it. It's hard to ask for help and be that vulnerable, but for most people it's a great decision. If you don't like yours after three sessions, find someone else.

Title	How many guys here have attended counselling, or anger management courses, or anything similar to help get a handle on your actions and behaviour?
Author	shittyanimalfacts
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Date	August 28, 2018 8:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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