Men can be bloody bad. We're a species of animal that fought hard to become the dominant super predator and then due to scarse resources and religion and simply not being perfect, we fought each other, and anyone alive today comes from a line of ancestors who left trails of blood in their wake, whatever ethnicity you are. So, we are all killers but most of us hold this instinct in check. A minority of men are awful, but the rest of us get on with building civilisations.

So, yes, some men beat their wives and I am sure the problem's worse with men. But what is also true but nowadays ignored is that often it's the woman who starts striking the man first (he just tends win if indeed he starts hitting back). I have witnessed women launching at men. I've even had partners who would strike me - but it's not in me to retaliate, thankfully. Also, there are guys who do nothing more than attempt to restrain who end up guilty within the system. I've personally seen this as well.

The point I'm coming to is it used to be about that minority of bad men (who had often come up through abuse, perhaps even at the hands of their mums) and a few campaigners also questioned women's part in it until that got beaten down as not politically correct. But now it's become this thing that allows many feminists to go on about men as if we're all bad, as with all this talk about toxic masculinity. Well, 10% of whatever race might be at times incarcerated, but that doesn't mean we get to say that entire ethnicity is all bad. It's gone from a genuine discussion, to dogmatic and fanatical.

And I don't know why people can't accept the gaps I mention for men. They're very real and painful. I know stories of women taking custody despite being Meth-heads and dating gang members. In one case, my mate's cousin wanted custody of his kids because his ex-wife does drugs and now lives with a registered convicted paedophile. He lost custody, despite all this, because they said his life showed "too much" routine, which they described as something like too clinical. (It's like being told your bad for being too clean.)

And the other gaps matter too. We're just brainwashed into thinking they don't, and the only gap we hear about is the one that matters to women.