How do you stop seeking validation from people?

dammit_redskins · 2017-04-21T01:52:21+00:00

You have low self esteem. You need to set and reach goals and accomplish things that you are afraid to, or things that make you uncomfortable. Face your fears head on and conquer them. Once your mind sees that you really can achieve the things you want, your self esteem rises. You start to see yourself as someone who can succeed at whatever challenge he crosses.

Then you will know for yourself that you truly are a high value person who can do anything you set your mind to. You will no longer seek validation because YOU know you are worthy.

A great first goal is sculpting your body by lifting and getting your diet in check. This is a good goal because it hits 3 birds with one stone, makes you more attractive, helps self esteem, boosts confidence when you know you look good.

chiefbl · 2017-04-21T06:08:51+00:00

Td;lr Know thyself. Validate yourself. How you live your life is far more important than how you say you live your life.

The first step in solving any problems is to first identify the problem. Congratulations, you've identified the problem. Now, whenever you find yourself posting that topless pic or Snapchatting a picture of your so called accomplishments; First ask why you are doing it.

I understand that seeking validation and genuinely wanting to show people your accomplishments are different sides to the same coin.

Edit: Are you improving your lifestyle? Your appearance? Your wardrobe? Aim higher, then higher than that. Just look at your past rejections as motivation. Keep moving on bro

LaLongCarabine · 2017-04-21T02:17:47+00:00

Stop watching porn and poisoning your mind into thinking that's how things work, and keep your dick beaters away from your crotch. That will start the process. Stop wasting testosterone on a towel or whatever and use it for lifting and talking to girls. It doesn't have to be sexual, just converse.

Tommy_407 · 2017-04-21T13:14:47+00:00

You start doing positive things and reaching goals thus creating a positive feedback loop in which your objective view of your own self esteem is permanently raised, and eventually you no longer need the external validation.

Title	How do you stop seeking validation from people?
Author	Howlum
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	April 21, 2017 12:50 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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