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Woman, 23, who claims she was raped by ‘dominant sex-loving’ Cambridge-educated entrepreneur after sharing a taxi home 'asked friends “What if I got my story mixed up" on WhatsApp'

furchfur

March 21, 2018

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Title	Woman, 23, who claims she was raped by ‘dominant sex-loving’ Cambridge-educated entrepreneur after sharing a taxi home 'asked friends “What if I got my story mixed up" on WhatsApp'
Author	furchfur
Upvotes	63
Comments	27
Date	March 21, 2018 5:14 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/863ung/woman_23_who_claims_she_was_raped_by_dominant/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/woman-23-who-claims-she-was-raped-by-dominant-sex.903989 https://theredarchive.com/post/903989

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[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 8 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link

[–]Mencite 6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link

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[+]AstralMango1 points 8 years ago [recovered] (10 children) | Copy Link

It isn't just sex; it's sex without consent, and it can be absolutely terrifying and scarring to the victim.

[–]hankrila 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

[–]Mencite 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[+]AstralMango1 points 8 years ago [recovered] (7 children) | Copy Link

Of course not.

[–]Mencite -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[+]AstralMango1 points 8 years ago [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link

Why are you going on about this? They're both bad, jfc.

[–]Mencite 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[+]AstralMango1 points 8 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link

Read my previous comment. I never once stated that.

[–]Mencite 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]backthefuckupbitch -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]umbr360 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Possibly, but even then, if you don't know the person I think that's just asking for trouble. There's plenty of 'dominant' stuff you can do that doesn't involve ignoring repeated pleas to stop. There's a level of trust involved there you just can't have with a complete stranger.

Aye, I can definitely read her whatsapp messages in two ways...the literal way where she brings doubt upon the case. Or the emotional way where she sounds scared she wont be believed. Which does cause issues.

As to the last quote...in the same way a guy could maybe doubt he was raped because he got an erection and people tell him that means he enjoyed it. The way it's worded I can easily read as doubt creeping in because maybe there was a level of consent which he overstepped and not as an admission of making it up.

If for example I agreed to be dominated by a woman and agreed a safe word, but then got panicked and starting shouting out stop/no instead of the safe word...I would still expect the other person to read the situation and stop. (Unless as I said, we specifically had the conversation that she should ignore the words 'no' or 'stop')

I've taken flak before for saying in a different sub that explicit verbal consent in not always desirable from either side. But when we're talking about ignoring the word 'stop' It really does need to be explicit consent.

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