B.C. man pleads for family court reform in suicide note.

JarvisMusk · 2017-09-25T11:16:26+00:00

I am going through the process right now. Although this guy has a much more dire situation, the reality of the situation is simple, fathers are not viewed as anything other than walking wallets.

The system incentivizes the “man hopping” behavior we’re seeing. Why would a woman stay? If the next guy makes more money, why wouldn’t she go? She gets to take the kids, and she knows the courts will side with her. She knows she will get a monthly pay-check from the father of her children.

Oh, and get this... I also have to pay her attorney fees. Yeah.

My ex left me for a lawyer, took my daughter and moved in with him 5 months after we split.

I do alright, but I don’t make lawyer money. I had to move out of my apartment I was staying in in order to afford the current child support. I also cancelled my gym membership, my cable, and cut out any entertainment spending. I quite literally pay my bills and my child support, and there is nothing left. She quit her job because her new guy pays for everything now. She gets 40% of my take-home income.

Take a second and think about that. You know what your paychecks are. You see what gets deposited into your account each pay period after taxes and all that jazz. Now reduce it by 40%. Where does that leave you? It will absolutely change your lifestyle significantly.

IDroppedtheGrenade · 2017-09-25T15:12:55+00:00

So damn sad. He didn’t need to take his life over this. His kids are without their dad now.

Had a buddy threaten to quit his job in front of the judge if he didn’t lower the child support. He had no way to take care and provide for himself after she got granted 2k a month for one damn kid.

He quit his job on the spot. Contempt of court while calling his boss in the middle of the proceedings. He works under the table now, courts can’t prove anything but magically his daughter just got a car hand delivered by him. Eventually he will get caught up but it’s been years. She’s about to turn 17 so -shrug-

Fuck the courts and this shit. We aren’t a paycheck. We matter too.

falsekoala · 2017-09-25T16:01:45+00:00

What I don’t get with these insane child support payments is that shouldn’t the female be in charge of paying some support for the child?

Why is it on the man to support the kid 100%?

EssencialToLife · 2017-09-25T17:45:46+00:00

Before sucide you have a mission. Bring the pain to the judge, to the court, the ex. Do not die before the mission is done. Dont let the same court fuck over your bros.

GeekofFury · 2017-09-25T20:30:16+00:00

Stuff like this just makes marriage look like a big no-no.

Always wear a condom. Get a vasectomy.

They label the MRM as a hate group. They label attempts to reform the family courts as an attack on women and children. So fine. Walk away from marriage and procreation.

Joemanji84 · 2017-09-25T19:37:06+00:00

Heartbreaking.

momandpopheir · 2017-09-25T21:29:48+00:00

He was jailed. This is like debtor's prison.

2017-09-26T10:18:06+00:00

Rest In Peace

NFKRZ_Leafy_Pyro · 2017-09-26T13:53:41+00:00

do we not have welfare? why isn't there a limit on how much a man can pay, 8,000X12 = $96,000 a year. WTF, that's one hell of a job you would have to support that! what is this guy, some well payed specialist. welfare for an adult is ~$610 a month so assuming that each kid is a time and a half of that, 610X4=$2440 a month X12 = $29,280 a year. that should be how that works, the minimum amount is what he pays. if they want more, then they can work for it. getting a divorce shouldn't be a ticket to a comfy life.

Title	B.C. man pleads for family court reform in suicide note.
Author	kanara
Upvotes	327
Comments	21
Date	September 25, 2017 8:55 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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