Overcoming fear of public speaking

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-05-30T05:13:15+00:00

Yes. I teach Special Forces guys on acquisition while on missions. Working on an Army base in Europe.

I read all the TRP and MRP sidebar. Lift heavy. Worked my ass off and internalize what I could. Squatting 300 lbs did a lot to obtain a more dominant mindset. And thats your deficiency that practice won't fix.

Your mindset is off. You have to deeply ingrain a new.mindset. like lifting poorly, none of what you do will yield progress until you fix your deficiencies. There is no.quick fix. But you've been throwing yourself at shit that isn't working rather than actual troubleshooting.

[deleted] · 2017-05-30T09:36:50+00:00

It's kind of hard.

Honestly it just comes with experience.

One thing that helps me is when I watch someone speak whether it's in front of 3 people or 100 is that I realize that I'm not judging them or anything just literally listening.

So once you get that fear out of your head it helps.

But as dumb as this might sound once you've cracked a joke or two in front of a group or an audience and they laugh you suddenly feel much better.

I was always pretty decent putting on a presentation but I remember the first time I ever talked in front of a couple hundred people ( I was the mc of some goofy contest or something I think in my frat during a philanthropy) I was pretty nervous and felt like I was bombing.

The weirdest thing is that when people are actually listening to you you are acutely aware of how silent it is. Which is disconcerting.

I've done several since then but it's been easier each time.

It's just weird having undivided intention. A shot or two before never hurts if it's a non work setting lol

But being worried about it is a non fear. I mean that in terms of the fact that everyone is afraid of it. I'm not sure you can really overcome it per se.

Might not be exactly what you wanted to hear but it's just my personal experience. I don't really think there's an easy answer. Or else everyone could do it

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-05-30T04:51:36+00:00

Practice in front of a mirror. That worked for Churchill.

hbPUA · 2017-05-31T23:11:59+00:00

What do you want to speak about?

Know the subject well. That's it. Pick the subject you want to speak about. Then imagine you are speaking to your audience. What are the ten fears you imagine? Write them down.

Then answer each fear as a response.

Now picture yourself again tomorrow. Speaking about the same subject and same audience. What fears come to mind? Write them down.

Answer each fear in writing and repeat it all out loud.

Stop before going further. Have you done the exercise? How does it feel now?

Make sure to speak public as soon as possible.

Remember this is all in your head. Expand your comfort zone, or forever live with a shrinking life. Because it will eat you up.

Just like approach anxiety, it only goes away by doing.

Title	Overcoming fear of public speaking
Author	trpthrowaway022
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	May 30, 2017 3:56 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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