I now realize my main problem is trying to make everything "perfect" or wanting to be in control. After searching around, I realize what is best isn't being in control but calmly handling the situation at hand and giving the appearance of being in control. Slowing down, one step at a time. Lowering my voice, speaking slower but firm, not panicking, not coming off too efficient..

Any advice to achieve this and is it true that mastering this is one of the key skills to masculinity?