Never asked a woman out. Thinking of taking the first step. Need advice!

aldjfh · 2017-06-10T19:13:47+00:00

Dude. First step is just to approach. You will most likely fail I can garuntee you that. But just do it. Get it out of your system.

DadOnDabs · 2017-06-10T20:40:27+00:00

A few things. Yes you should practice just holding conversations. Talk to everyone everywhere. Give random people high fives, compliment their bag or whatever, even ask what their doing. It doesn't matter it just gets you talking.

Don't quit videogames. Learn some self control and allow yourself an hour or two a week if you complete your goals. I tried quitting video games. It was okay for a while but I longed for them after a few months and almost had a full relapse to spending all my time on them. Learn to limit yourself.

DadOnDabs · 2017-06-10T20:03:25+00:00

When you first start golfing to don't try to make it to the green on a drive. You start with your chippers and try to get the ball going straight. Then you work on distance.

Same applies to game. You're gonna hit the ball off into the woods to places you can never get back from. Do you keep chasing that ball? No you pull another ball out of your bag and T off again.

Here are your steps.

1) Approach. Follow the 3 second rule and kill off your approach anxiety.

2) learn to guide conversations

3) learn to read people. This means tone, facial ques, and body language. Know whether you can number close, k-close, or f-close (it comes naturally with time. You'll be able to read how into you she is.

4) try to number close, k-close, instadate, or f-close.

SmoothBeliever · 2017-06-10T23:24:55+00:00

go up to a random girl with a fat ass and say

"damn you have such a fat ass"

I did it, got a disgusted look, and also never feared approaching again

blackedoutfast · 2017-06-11T00:59:41+00:00

if a man never gets rejected, that just means he isn't approaching enough women.

embrace rejection. stop thinking of it as a failure. obviously a "yes" is better than "no", but "no" is so much better than never getting an answer at all. "no" means you played all your cards and it just didn't work out. "no" means that you didn't pass up a good opportunity. "no" means you didn't waste days/months/years of your life stuck in the friendzone.

getting rejected means you did something that takes balls and you're braver than all the guys who saw that girl but were too afraid to approach. and what's the big deal? yeah it's kinda embarassing, but if you really fuck it up what's the worst that happens? a girl dumps a drink on you? you get thrown out of a bar? really no big deal bro.

no one here is going to lie to you and tell you that there is some magic cheat code that will allow a short fat dude with no experience to hit on girls and never get rejected. if you read the sidebar and follow everything it says, you will definitely get rejected. a lot. but you'll also start to learn what works and what doesn't. you'll lose your fear and gain confidence. and over time you'll start to get more "yes" from hotter girls.

definitely start lifting and lower your body fat %, but stop worrying about your height because there's really nothing you can do about it. your height will be a dealbreaker for some girls, but not for all of them. your height is a disadvantage, it's not your fault, and there's nothing you can do about it. but you need to truly accept those facts because the insecurity and low confidence it's giving you are even bigger dealbreakers for most girls.

also bonus tip: don't think that you only have a shot with very short girls. the petite girls are generally the MOST focused on male height. a lot of shorter guys make that mistake, get rejected by short girls who want a really really tall guy, and then don't even attempt to go after more average height and taller girls who would give them a shot

E_Rico700 · 2017-06-12T19:08:24+00:00

You are wasting way too much time LEARNING how to ask girls out instead of actually asking them out. Next cute girl you see, ask her out. You are making a mountain out of the idea of talking to girls. Just get out there and get some experience under your belt.

Title	Never asked a woman out. Thinking of taking the first step. Need advice!
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Date	June 10, 2017 7:09 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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