Male, 41 here. I lift hard, do cardio, eat well. I'm lean and strong and very healthy in general.

Earlier this year I was traveling, and then sick, so for two weeks I had no sexual release (no fapping or sex). For a month after that, my libido was great, I'd get rock hard just from making out, and wanted it all the time. That's how I want to be always.

Soon after, I went back to fapping with porn ~3x per week, and libido eventually went back to normal or low. Had an occasion with my LTR where she really had to coax the little guy for a while before we could have sex.

Tried no-fap. Been off porn and fapping for ~6 weeks. After about a week of this, libido shot up. It was great: getting hard and staying hard was easy, and my drive was like before. Again, just making out would get me rock hard.

The most recent time I had sex (yesterday) wasn't quite bad, but again required some coaxing. Since then, though, I haven't been as sexually interested at all. It feels like my libido just sort of crashed again.

So when I'm like this, day to day I feel normal, just not as interested in sex, and getting hard is not as easy and automatic as I know it can be.

Does anyone go through cycles of high and low libido? I'm trying to think if it's something I'm doing: diet, sleep, stress, but they're all good and consistent. No medications or anything. And like I said, no fapping or porn for about 6 weeks now.

Does anyone do anything that keeps them going consistently strong in this regard?