Not sure how I'd go on about this; you know some women... they're oblivious to stuff like this. Specifically shit that you wouldn't tolerate (especially in an LTR, ie. going out clubbing alone or with her single girlfriends).

I presume the beta way would be to talk her up (ie "Hey I have certain boundaries and they are X Y Z), since that just reeks insecurities.

I've tried not being blunt about it with a plate of mines (ie she does ABC so I "punish" accordingly without any explanation why). But she keeps doing ABC, is completely oblivious of it, and then goes all puppy-eyes on me when I retract time/commitment accordingly.

So, how would one tell their plate/LTR to stop doing something without "mate-guarding"/coming off as insecure etc?