I posted this on r/sex and in relationships and I'm getting very little advice, and, I feel, not very good advice.

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/6ocwh6/me_25_m_and_my_gf_23_f_of_2_yrs_sexual_fantasies/

I know you guys will probably think this is a troll post or whatever, but it's a real problem and I tried to get into it in as much detail as possible.

I know the red pill philosophy and agree with some of it, disagree with other parts. I expect that most of you will say that I shouldn't have gotten into this situation in the first place. I don't disagree.

At the moment, however, I'm looking for a way out that will not do too much damage and that will not make her lose respect for me.

Just so we're clear, I think I put it in the tl;dr, but nothing has happened yet, and I don't want it to for the reasons I say in the post.

It seems a lot of people are telling me I have "trust" issues with my gf, as in claiming I don't trust her. I don't really see it this way, I've just seen things go bad too many times.