i dont know why, over the several months of improving myself, taking all the theories and readings into account, i am still thinking much more logically about things.

the biggest one: "look at her actions, not her words"

i am always thrown off, when shes angry/upset/mad and says things like 'why cant you just be empathetic' / 'you act like you don't even care if i left' / 'if i ever left you wouldn't even chase after me' / 'don't you miss me' / 'im always the one to want to try and fix us'

i know, i know, these are standard shit tests/comfort tests... but i just dont get it... if we, as men, give them these things they say they want, they end up losing interest and leave, because we get betafied.... they don't even know, themselves, what they want most of the time. they say they want their men to do X, but when he does X, shit gets worse... and what they say they want, they don't actually respond to. that being said, ive been called a jerk and an asshole a few times.

why in the hell do women do this?