Many women have entire lists of impossible demands on a potential partner. And no ones calls them out for it.

§ ) When a woman says that she wants a big, strong, tall and older man with a full head of hair no one bats an eye. They tell her that she knows her worth and shouldn't settle for less than she is worth. When a man says that he wants a petite, shorter and younger woman with long hair he is called a pedophile. It also doesn't matter if the woman is fat. She will demand body positivity and representation in media. And if he happens to be short or fat he will just accept his fate or consequences for his choices.

§ ) Women get say that they wants a confident, assertive and outgoing man who knows how to get things done. They want a man that can have any woman he wants. But they want him to be loyal to her only. Because that is what women are attracted to. In contrast, imagine a man saying that he wants a shy, modest and agreeable woman. Preferably someone who is a virgin or at least has a low number of sex partners. He is called an insecure misogynist with small dick energy. Looking for some pushover he can dominate and manipulate.

Men aren't allowed to have preferences. They are shamed for it.